I’m tired of people’s stupid reactions to the Japan earthquake

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I wish that following news from Japan did NOT involve following American public reaction to the disaster. Of course, the racists are beyond evil; I’ll get to them in a second. But I’m also troubled by the regular folk who are yammering about “taking stock” and “counting their blessings.” Now that they’ve seen the horrific decimation of Japanese lives and …

Forget Amy Chua. Bigger fish to stir-fry: 4 ways I’ve been conned by Confucius.

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On Saturday, I blogged about “Parents like Amy Chua are the reason Asian Americans like me are in therapy.” Other bloggers had a lot to say about the topic too. Taken as a whole, the collective reaction was a chilling, community-wide scream over an issue so deep that it’s practically genetic. For me, the scope and depth of what’s being …

Parents like Amy Chua are the reason why Asian-Americans like me are in therapy

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All day long, people have been telling me about an article headlined: “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.” And I’ve had enough! I’m posting my reaction so that I don’t have to keep talking about it. Getting to the point: the piece is crap. But its writer, Yale Law School Professor Amy Chua, is also a marketing genius. Let me explain…. …

I am getting ahead by cutting costs

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Soooo, I’m about to walk into 2011 with nearly $9,000 less in annual expenses. And even though I’m happy about this development, it also makes me feel rather pathetic. Since when is $9k a big deal??! There was a time when saving or spending a few grand didn’t matter. But that was then. These days, cutting costs is the new …

5 ways that some married women can annoy a single, divorced woman like me

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I do a good job of celebrating the holidays because I want my daughter to have a happy childhood. In the process of keeping up the festivities for her sake, I’ve become less bah-humbug. And I’ll admit it, I  have even learned to have fun. Still, this time of year always makes me think of how hard it is to …

Dining tips: how to know which bread plate & glass are yours….old school social networking!

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This post is in the practical advice category. It contains info that I wish I’d had as a young Chinatown ghetto nerd who was trying to figure out mainstream dining. What did I know about bread plates and water glasses? As a kid, the family meal was simply a matter of sitting down with a bunch of bowls, forks, chopsticks …