Best Mother’s Day gift of 2012

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I recently discovered the secret to a better relationship with my daughter: unconditional love. Ouch — do you know how hard it is to give her that when I’ve been raised with success-obsessed values?! What a challenge to let go of personal expectations so that my 17-year-old baby can find herself. It’s especially hard because Gabi’s a high school junior …

Laughing at Asian parents — of course, this isn’t me!

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We have to watch this together,” my daughter commanded. Her laptop was open to a YouTube video, “Shit Asian Dads Say.” For the next 2.54 minutes, we laughed like maniacs. This precious bit of parody revealed so much about…me. Ooops, I was busted! When this searing spoof was first posted on Jan. 15, the Asian American blogosphere went berserk. To …

What my daughter thinks of me

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What’s your mom like? My daughter answers that question today as our guest blogger. Taken together, her photo essay and artist’s statement create an honest, profound reflection — which is a nice way to say that I don’t come off too good…. We’ll start with a self-portrait of the photographer. Gabi snapped it over the winter, when she was still …

How NOT to Get Arrested in NYC: crucial info from Alan Gordon, criminal lawyer

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Please help me welcome guest blogger Alan Gordon — he’s here with scary facts about how easy is it to get arrested in the Big Apple. While this could happen to any of us, “it’s open season on teenagers because they’re teenagers,” he says. Alan has written this post because “I want them to know how to live their lives.” But …