What my daughter thinks of me

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What’s your mom like? My daughter answers that question today as our guest blogger. Taken together, her photo essay and artist’s statement create an honest, profound reflection — which is a nice way to say that I don’t come off too good…. We’ll start with a self-portrait of the photographer. Gabi snapped it over the winter, when she was still …

Fear — and getting over it

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I just turned 55. And I am scared. The feeling reminds me of quarter-life angst except worse. After all, a half-life crisis involves twice as much emotional baggage. But thankfully, there’s also the potential for twice as much wisdom — which I discovered during a birthday morning visit with the shrink. My regular Monday session began with the same issues that …

I’m proof that slackers can fulfill their dreams

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When I was a kid, I wanted to be a teacher. But my parents told me to be a doctor. To thwart their plans, I screwed up in college. So instead of teaching the ABCs, I covered my college transcript with A’s, B’s, C’s, D’s and F’s. Somehow, I eventually went from this passive-aggressive disaster to Columbia University’s Graduate School …

How to overcome childhood traumas & troubles: new possibilities for a new year

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Happy Lunar New Year! Here’s an old photo from the holidays. I remember when Mom took it. We were in a Chinese restaurant. She kept telling me to smile but I refused. How could I, when the fabric of my China Doll was so uncomfortably scratchy? Besides, everyone was watching our little drama — and I just HATED being on …

Forget Amy Chua. Bigger fish to stir-fry: 4 ways I’ve been conned by Confucius.

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On Saturday, I blogged about “Parents like Amy Chua are the reason Asian Americans like me are in therapy.” Other bloggers had a lot to say about the topic too. Taken as a whole, the collective reaction was a chilling, community-wide scream over an issue so deep that it’s practically genetic. For me, the scope and depth of what’s being …