How to choose a good shrink

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 10 Comments

Today’s post is inspired by the single most frequent question that readers ask me: How does a person get started with therapy? How do I choose a good shrink? Up until now, I’ve been pretty clueless on what to answer. But I finally asked my own therapist for advice on the issue. The highlights from our chat are outlined below.  …

Why I’m not cranky this Thanksgiving

betty ming liu Food, Inspiration, Relationships 16 Comments

Even though I can be grouchy around the holidays (’tis a hellish season to be single), you won’t hear any complaints from me right now. Instead, I am feeling reasonably sociable, for three reasons… ***First up, here is one of my favorite cartoons from The New Yorker. Last Thanksgiving, I posted this precious moment from the magazine on Facebook and …

The garden of life needs good people and ideas

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 14 Comments

Thought for the day: Friendships are like gardens. Every once in a while, they have to be weeded and pruned. Sometimes, a drastic redesign is necessary.  This marvelous wisdom was presented during a yoga workshop that I took years ago. At the time, it seemed a little harsh, especially coming from an instructor who seemed so mellow and meditative. Wish …

3 great writing tips that transform my students

betty ming liu Writing how-to's 19 Comments

I have a ton of writing tips. But for students in a hurry, three essentials always work. Together, they constitute a crash course in cleaning up how they express themselves. If they can get at least these three tools from my classes, then my work is done. 1) Write conversationally Most students start off in love with long, twisted sentences. …

Becoming more Asian and, more American

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration, Writing how-to's 23 Comments

Tell me the truth — do I really have to spend the rest of my life wrestling with ethnic identity issues? Can’t I just be me? What the hell does any of this mean anyway? More than half a century of personal soul searching has not brought much resolution: Decade #1 (Ages 0-10): Hated being called “Betty Liu”/”Betty Lou.” Decade …