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I launched this blog in 2008. My mini-me.
How my dad’s forgiveness freed me from perfectionism
July 23, 2016
I used to to think that sex and finances were the toughest topics to write about. This post beats them both because I struggle so deeply with unresolved daddy-daughter issues. […]
How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story
July 16, 2016
Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did […]
Open letter to Chinese American moms #blacklivesmatter
July 10, 2016
If you’re reading this and you’re not Chinese, American or Mom, please stay — and welcome! You are essential to the conversation too. It’s just that I feel a need […]
How I almost visited the White House & learned about aging gracefully
May 7, 2016
The Secret Service guy behind the glass window looked at my driver’s license, scanned his computer screen and shook his head. “You’re not on the list,” he said. What happened next […]
What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”
April 17, 2016
I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow […]
Reflecting on fear, back pain, new projects & the healing power of poetry
March 26, 2016
Ouch. Ouch. Easy, girl. Earlier this week, wrenching my back led to three, solid immobilized days in bed. Even though I’m up again, recovery is slow. The back is tender. So am […]
March 5, 2016
Last November, a 10-day vacation in Madrid made me a fan for life. The city was so welcoming and filled with surprises. The art, the cultural immersion — I was […]