Eighteen months ago, I wrote a letter to my inner child. Come into my life more, I said. Well, she took up the invitation. Now, she wants to take over. She says it’s time to heal the early years and fully rebirth myself. <Gulp.> Anyways, here she is. See what what you think. Hey Betty, Congrats on the life changes. …
Happy 100th birthday: I love you Mom, thorns and all
Dear Mom, I used to hate roses because they reminded me of you: beautiful, with dangerous thorns. But when I planted your favorite flower on your 100th birthday, you sent me a sign. Now, I embrace you completely, Mother Dear. I love you, Mom, thorns and all. If you were still alive, you would’ve adored shopping for rose bushes at …
Dads never really die
When I was 19, my 70-year-old dad passed on from this world. But since I believe that dads never really die, my relationship with him keeps growing. And we’re finally in a very good place. This is huge. After all, I spent decades wrapped in outrage, venting about the tyrant who scarred me forever. Now, I look at my faded …
Why I’m becoming a professional coach
This weekend, I’m in Arlington, Va. for life coach training, yay! Taking on this new role pulls together all the skills from my life journey. I only realized I was looking for coaching — when I found it. That’s why I’m becoming a professional coach. :) The world of sports has always had coaches. But when I was young(er), other types …
The historic trauma of Asian American women is based on violence from Day 1
Did you know that a ban on Chinese immigrant women created America’s first immigration laws? Discovering this forgotten historical moment left me appalled by the suffering of the ancestors. They were singled out because they were poor, foreign and “exotic.” Learning these facts makes me more aware of the deep racism and sexism in our legal system. I’ve always felt that …
My 1st time on a big boat: Sheila E. cruise
One more item crossed off the bucket list! I’m just back from a Sheila E. cruise — yup, that Sheila E., who was Prince’s drummer and Latina lover. The trip gave me the tropics and great music. Most importantly, it gave me a taste of diversity at sea. My daughter Gabi joined me for the first-ever “Sheila E. Glamorous Life …