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What was? What’s new? What’s now?™

As a coach, I help you explore these three little questions. They get you to think big about your life. You’ll come up with unexpected answers, ideas and solutions. This is the power of your truth. 

Our coaching opens a safe, brave space for uncovering your hidden strength and options. We’ll re-visit your past (what was). And, discover surprises (what’s new). This creates change (what’s now). 

For more on my trademark coach approach, click here. Contact me. Find out what’s been stopping you, and, how to move ahead.

Accepting my dad for who he is

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This year, I’m giving my dad a very special Father’s Day gift: unconditional love. So what if he’s been dead for 41 years. Remember, parents never really die. Besides, it’s never too late, right? My father crushed his family — Mom, my kid sister, me — with tough love. As a cranky Vietnamese-Chinese immigrant struggling with survival issues in America, …

What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

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I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people …

Dealing with the sudden, tragic death of friends

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In the last two weeks, two friends died in separate, unrelated car accidents. Dealing with their deaths pushed me into a sad, heightened state of self-awareness. Missing them makes me realize that all true friendships are precious. Sharing about them now is the only way to keep them close. They taught me stuff I didn’t know about love. Writing about …

Say these 4 things to change a relationship

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For most of our lives, my younger sister and I had A Difficult Relationship. For this, we hold our parents responsible. They constantly compared us to each other, pushing us to be twin success stories. When we were little, our mom even dressed us in identical outfits. We grew up feeling competitive and judgemental of each other. Then a year ago, …