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What was? What’s new? What’s now?™

As a coach, I help you explore these three little questions. They get you to think big about your life. You’ll come up with unexpected answers, ideas and solutions. This is the power of your truth. 

Our coaching opens a safe, brave space for uncovering your hidden strength and options. We’ll re-visit your past (what was). And, discover surprises (what’s new). This creates change (what’s now). 

For more on my trademark coach approach, click here. Contact me. Find out what’s been stopping you, and, how to move ahead.

How to become a model in Seventeen Magazine — like my daughter!

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 77 Comments

Hey, guess what — my baby’s in the April issue of Seventeen Magazine! Look for her on page 82! She’s in the upper right-hand corner of the “pretty prom styles!” photo layout. That’s my Gabrielle, the dimpled cutie with the elegant updo! Sorry for putting you through all those exclamation points. But we’re just so excited! Gabi loves fashion and …

How to overcome childhood traumas & troubles: new possibilities for a new year

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 34 Comments

Happy Lunar New Year! Here’s an old photo from the holidays. I remember when Mom took it. We were in a Chinese restaurant. She kept telling me to smile but I refused. How could I, when the fabric of my China Doll was so uncomfortably scratchy? Besides, everyone was watching our little drama — and I just HATED being on …

Enjoy a Chinese banquet but boycott the evil of shark fin soup – photo essay

betty ming liu Food, Travel 11 Comments

A typical Chinese banquet can be an insanely delicious 10-course orgy. While I’ve attended a few fab vegetarian versions of this feast, most events are heavy on meat and seafood. Unfortunately, these menus also feature one item that symbolizes the brutality of Chinese food culture: shark fin soup. Chinese banquets go on 24/7 to celebrate just about any occasion. Starting …

Forget Amy Chua. Bigger fish to stir-fry: 4 ways I’ve been conned by Confucius.

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 86 Comments

On Saturday, I blogged about “Parents like Amy Chua are the reason Asian Americans like me are in therapy.” Other bloggers had a lot to say about the topic too. Taken as a whole, the collective reaction was a chilling, community-wide scream over an issue so deep that it’s practically genetic. For me, the scope and depth of what’s being …

Parents like Amy Chua are the reason why Asian-Americans like me are in therapy

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 424 Comments

All day long, people have been telling me about an article headlined: “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.” And I’ve had enough! I’m posting my reaction so that I don’t have to keep talking about it. Getting to the point: the piece is crap. But its writer, Yale Law School Professor Amy Chua, is also a marketing genius. Let me explain…. …

Why I’m back in therapy

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration, Relationships 9 Comments

Sooooo, I’m back to seeing my shrink. That means I’m paying $175 for a weekly, 45-minute session. Ouch. Unfortunately, my health insurance doesn’t cover a penny of it. Fortunately, the therapy is worth every cent. Even after only three weeks, I’m already feeling much better. If you’ve never tried it, let me just say that getting shrunk can do wonders. It’s …