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What was? What’s new? What’s now?™

If life is a journey, then make sure it’s worth the trip! As a coach, I help you evaluate where you’re coming from (what was) & challenges you’re facing (what’s new). Once you see what you really have, you can get the life you really want (what’s now).

Even though I’m based in the New York City area, you can be anywhere. I coach online by videoconference or phone. It takes guts to reflect but the process usually brings surprising clarity, inspiration — and, relief. Read more about my coach approach here.

Dealing with the sudden, tragic death of friends

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In the last two weeks, two friends died in separate, unrelated car accidents. Dealing with their deaths pushed me into a sad, heightened state of self-awareness. Missing them makes me realize that all true friendships are precious. Sharing about them now is the only way to keep them close. They taught me stuff I didn’t know about love. Writing about …

Chuang Yen Monastery — a giant Buddha in the Hudson Valley

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With the older folks in my family dying off, I’m going to a lot of funerals. They’ve become affectionate occasions to catch up with relatives. The latest gathering surprised me because I found diversity in the most unexpected location. When people from Chinatown and Queens choose cremation, their survivors make the 90-minute drive north to Chuang Yen Monastery in the town …

Starting a new year without my sweet, old cat

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I began the Year of the Sheep by making a painful decision about Lucky, our ancient cat. My first act of the new year was to put him to sleep. Dealing with death is considered a no-no during such an auspicious holiday. But Lucky was a black cat with great vibes, enough to overcome Chinese superstitions. Besides, I miss him. Talking …

#Ferguson. Hear the black man’s cry. Our cry.

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If we’re going to talk about the national outrage called Ferguson, we must include certain key facts — information that isn’t getting enough play in the news media. The race-and-politics numbers are depressing Two-thirds of Ferguson’s residents are black. The mayor is white. Five out of six City Council members who run Ferguson are white. The city has 53 police …

Making do with loss

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My original plan was to make this an upbeat holiday post about a favorite inspirational quote. But I just found out that a dear, 80-something friend has died of a heart attack. So I’m feeling very sad.  Still, the quote that I was planning to share has power, even in this moment:   “Everything you need, you already have.”   …