Fear — and getting over it

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I just turned 55. And I am scared. The feeling reminds me of quarter-life angst except worse. After all, a half-life crisis involves twice as much emotional baggage. But thankfully, there’s also the potential for twice as much wisdom — which I discovered during a birthday morning visit with the shrink. My regular Monday session began with the same issues that …

I’m proof that slackers can fulfill their dreams

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When I was a kid, I wanted to be a teacher. But my parents told me to be a doctor. To thwart their plans, I screwed up in college. So instead of teaching the ABCs, I covered my college transcript with A’s, B’s, C’s, D’s and F’s. Somehow, I eventually went from this passive-aggressive disaster to Columbia University’s Graduate School …

Why I’m back in therapy

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Sooooo, I’m back to seeing my shrink. That means I’m paying $175 for a weekly, 45-minute session. Ouch. Unfortunately, my health insurance doesn’t cover a penny of it. Fortunately, the therapy is worth every cent. Even after only three weeks, I’m already feeling much better. If you’ve never tried it, let me just say that getting shrunk can do wonders. It’s …

Giant Westchester County paper shredder gives me fresh view on life & writing

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Today, my life is in shreds. Literally. And guess what — it feels great. Absolutely exhilarating, in fact. Here’s what happened…. I’m a resident of Westchester County, N.Y., which owns a giant paper shredding truck. All year long, the Mobile Shredder drives around, offering a secure way to recycle sensitive documents. At 10 a.m., that monster machine was parked in …

Holiday season & divorce: 10 survival skills

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It’s been a rocky, post-divorce decade of searching for new holiday traditions. But this morning, I actually woke up feeling HAPPY about Thanksgiving. Is this really me???! Up until now, I’ve dreaded the seasonal festivities. After all, we’re entering The Worst Time of The Year for a Single Person. For me, this high-stress period officially runs from now until Feb. …