How to choose a good shrink

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Today’s post is inspired by the single most frequent question that readers ask me: How does a person get started with therapy? How do I choose a good shrink? Up until now, I’ve been pretty clueless on what to answer. But I finally asked my own therapist for advice on the issue. The highlights from our chat are outlined below.  …

The garden of life needs good people and ideas

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Thought for the day: Friendships are like gardens. Every once in a while, they have to be weeded and pruned. Sometimes, a drastic redesign is necessary.  This marvelous wisdom was presented during a yoga workshop that I took years ago. At the time, it seemed a little harsh, especially coming from an instructor who seemed so mellow and meditative. Wish …

Crazymaking people & moments must be stopped

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My daughter had a great pediatrician who gave me the following life-changing advice… I’ll always remember the afternoon when I carried my baby Gabi into his office. She was such a gloriously fat, beautiful little person. Since she wasn’t walking yet, I lugged her everywhere. Kinda hard on the lower back. But that was nothing compared to the constant demands …

Becoming more Asian and, more American

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Tell me the truth — do I really have to spend the rest of my life wrestling with ethnic identity issues? Can’t I just be me? What the hell does any of this mean anyway? More than half a century of personal soul searching has not brought much resolution: Decade #1 (Ages 0-10): Hated being called “Betty Liu”/”Betty Lou.” Decade …

5 tips for successful dating

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Well, folks, a miracle has happened. Getting out there to date post-divorce has given me some dating skills. Here’s what I’ve learned: 1. Dating online is totally acceptable. Hey, it’s hard to meet people. These days, everyone’s searching online for romance — even my gorgeous young college students. Thank God for the Internet. There’s even a very active senior market now. Top10DatingWebsites.com has …