Fear — and getting over it

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I just turned 55. And I am scared. The feeling reminds me of quarter-life angst except worse. After all, a half-life crisis involves twice as much emotional baggage. But thankfully, there’s also the potential for twice as much wisdom — which I discovered during a birthday morning visit with the shrink. My regular Monday session began with the same issues that …

5 ways that some married women can annoy a single, divorced woman like me

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I do a good job of celebrating the holidays because I want my daughter to have a happy childhood. In the process of keeping up the festivities for her sake, I’ve become less bah-humbug. And I’ll admit it, I  have even learned to have fun. Still, this time of year always makes me think of how hard it is to …

Dining tips: how to know which bread plate & glass are yours….old school social networking!

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This post is in the practical advice category. It contains info that I wish I’d had as a young Chinatown ghetto nerd who was trying to figure out mainstream dining. What did I know about bread plates and water glasses? As a kid, the family meal was simply a matter of sitting down with a bunch of bowls, forks, chopsticks …

Why I’m back in therapy

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Sooooo, I’m back to seeing my shrink. That means I’m paying $175 for a weekly, 45-minute session. Ouch. Unfortunately, my health insurance doesn’t cover a penny of it. Fortunately, the therapy is worth every cent. Even after only three weeks, I’m already feeling much better. If you’ve never tried it, let me just say that getting shrunk can do wonders. It’s …

How to have romance in your life when you’re not dating

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It wasn’t so long ago that I was sitting on my therapist’s black leather couch, sobbing my eyes out. At the time, I was a few years into post-divorce dating and, then not dating. I was still alone — and scared of being alone. Not dating was especially depressing since, up until then, my shrink was always telling me, “I …