I just discovered that a movie date with myself can be fun. Getting out there reminded me that whether I’m single or in a relationship, I always, always have choices. It was a little aha! moment packed with impact. It broke the cycle. Until I had a movie date with myself, I skulked around at movie theater matinees. My goal …
Five languages of love can help relationship problems
Never heard of the five love languages? Me neither. At least, not until recently. But now that I know the concept, it’s been such a handy tool for figuring out how to get more love in my life. The five languages of love can help relationship problems, too. Defining the five languages When it comes to the best love language, …
How writing saved my life: Part 3 (Independence)
Note: This is Part 3 and the final installment in my series. Part 3, with three key words: writing-saved-life. During my 30s, I played The Asian Babe Who Had It All. There was a hot journalism career and cool husband. We owned a Manhattan condo with marble bathrooms and a fireplace. By day, I ran all over the city, writing …
Is celibacy the answer?
Note to readers: Last week I wrote a letter to my inner child. This week, she writes back and recommends celibacy. Hmmm. Dear Betty, Thank you for the letter you wrote to me, your inner child. Of course, I want to take your hand and bust out of your Inner Darkness. But for us to truly journey together as …
How to double date on a mother-daughter vacation
Vacationing in Amsterdam transitioned my daughter and I to a grown-up relationship. For the first time ever, we traveled as two women with romantic partners in tow. Thankfully, we survived the emotional leap, and the awkwardness of our new reality. From changing diapers, I now had to treat my daughter as an adult, with an, um, private life. And, I …
Photos: How to visit California on a budget
Now I know why my friends who move to California never come back. The sights, the scenes, the food! Of course, the Golden State is also quite expensive. But good buddies who live there made the trip both affordable and memorable. In September, my bf and I spent five days in the San Francisco Bay Area. Proud to say we …