Writing so much about my parents on this blog has led to a very nice surprise. While they annoyed terrorized me for so many of my younger years, I can now think of them with great fondess. Dare I say it? Yeah. I can: All is forgiven. Putting up posts about them has been healing because they were opportunities to …
Building my brand as the The Good Asian
It’s done! Welcome to my redesigned blog. Thanks to your help, I’ve got a new logo and theme blurb that might work. I’m also on a mission to self-publish a book under my new imprint, TheGoodAsian. If you check out the navigation menu at the top of this page, next to the “blog” tab is a new tab for “TheGoodAsian.com.” …
Branding my blog, shaping my identity!
Hmm, I think I’m finally done fighting with my parents. Hey, just because they’re dead doesn’t mean the battles go away! The difference is that as my own person, I’m no longer suffocated by their tough love. Which means I’m ready to refocus my blog…. If you’ve noticed, I’ve just updated my logo with a new photo of busy me …
Thinking about my tiger dad makes me cry
Dad’s been dead for 36 years — a lifetime during which I’ve finally salvaged the real me from his control freak destructiveness. And as a recovering daughter, I’m starting to reflect on the good stuff he gave me. So I recently took a good look at a photo of us that’s been hanging in my bedroom for ages. A very …
The best Father’s Day gift for you — if not your dad
I wish that thinking about my dad filled with me heart-bursting joy. Instead, he left me with bittersweet memories. But thanks to a really marvelous book, my feelings are now more loving, whole — and realistic. The journey towards resolution began last fall when I got hold of “Our Fathers, Ourselves: Daughters, Fathers, and the Changing American Family.” Published in …
Laughing at Asian parents — of course, this isn’t me!
We have to watch this together,” my daughter commanded. Her laptop was open to a YouTube video, “Shit Asian Dads Say.” For the next 2.54 minutes, we laughed like maniacs. This precious bit of parody revealed so much about…me. Ooops, I was busted! When this searing spoof was first posted on Jan. 15, the Asian American blogosphere went berserk. To …