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What was, what’s new, what’s now™!

My coaching clients change their lives by exploring three questions: What was? What’s new? What’s now?

They start by re-visiting the past (what was). They discover surprises (what’s new). They get a clearer picture and story of themselves (what’s now). 

Get a life you really want by living in the now. I’d love to help you find your personal power. Where to begin? Read more here. 

Dads never really die

Dads never really die

betty ming liu Inspiration 12 Comments

When I was 19, my 70-year-old dad passed on from this world. But since I believe that dads never really die, my relationship with him keeps growing. And we’re finally in a very good place. This is huge. After all, I spent decades wrapped in outrage, venting about the tyrant who scarred me forever. Now, I look at my faded …

Accepting my dad for who he is

betty ming liu Relationships 6 Comments

This year, I’m giving my dad a very special Father’s Day gift: unconditional love. So what if he’s been dead for 41 years. Remember, parents never really die. Besides, it’s never too late, right? My father crushed his family — Mom, my kid sister, me — with tough love. As a cranky Vietnamese-Chinese immigrant struggling with survival issues in America, …

Reflecting on fear, back pain, new projects & the healing power of poetry

betty ming liu Health, Writing how-to's 10 Comments

Ouch. Ouch. Easy, girl. Earlier this week, wrenching my back led to three, solid immobilized days in bed. Even though I’m up again, recovery is slow. The back is tender. So am I. Three painful, prone, motionless days took me to a deeper truth. I had to deal with not just physical crippling but an emotional one. Lately, I’ve been stressed about …

Say these 4 things to change a relationship

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 14 Comments

For most of our lives, my younger sister and I had A Difficult Relationship. For this, we hold our parents responsible. They constantly compared us to each other, pushing us to be twin success stories. When we were little, our mom even dressed us in identical outfits. We grew up feeling competitive and judgemental of each other. Then a year ago, …