what was what's new what's now
What was? What’s new? What’s now?™

If life is a journey, then make sure it’s worth the trip! As a coach, I help you evaluate where you’re coming from (what was) & challenges you’re facing (what’s new). Once you see what you really have, you can get the life you really want (what’s now).

Even though I’m based in the New York City area, you can be anywhere. I coach online by videoconference or phone. It takes guts to reflect but the process usually brings surprising clarity, inspiration — and, relief. Read more about my coach approach here.

Little Betty in her cave

What my inner child wants: let me out!

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 4 Comments

Eighteen months ago, I wrote a letter to my inner child. Come into my life more, I said. Well, she took up the invitation. Now, she wants to take over. She says it’s time to heal the early years and fully rebirth myself. <Gulp.> Anyways, here she is. See what what you think.     Hey Betty, Congrats on the life changes. …

Dads never really die

Dads never really die

betty ming liu Inspiration 12 Comments

When I was 19, my 70-year-old dad passed on from this world. But since I believe that dads never really die, my relationship with him keeps growing. And we’re finally in a very good place. This is huge. After all, I spent decades wrapped in outrage, venting about the tyrant who scarred me forever. Now, I look at my faded …

Accepting my dad for who he is

betty ming liu Relationships 6 Comments

This year, I’m giving my dad a very special Father’s Day gift: unconditional love. So what if he’s been dead for 41 years. Remember, parents never really die. Besides, it’s never too late, right? My father crushed his family — Mom, my kid sister, me — with tough love. As a cranky Vietnamese-Chinese immigrant struggling with survival issues in America, …

Reflecting on fear, back pain, new projects & the healing power of poetry

betty ming liu Health, Writing how-to's 10 Comments

Ouch. Ouch. Easy, girl. Earlier this week, wrenching my back led to three, solid immobilized days in bed. Even though I’m up again, recovery is slow. The back is tender. So am I. Three painful, prone, motionless days took me to a deeper truth. I had to deal with not just physical crippling but an emotional one. Lately, I’ve been stressed about …