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What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

April 17, 2016

I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow […]

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Why Chinese American women gain weight

February 21, 2016

Ugh, I have to lose 16 pounds. Doctors’ orders. Otherwise, diabetes and achy knees will ruin my future. But here’s my other problem: Chinese American women gain weight for specific […]

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Cooking with Kian: The only Chinese cookbook you’ll ever need

January 15, 2016

Just in time for Feb. 8th’s Lunar New Year! A new Chinese cookbook has me serving up elegant dishes that are shockingly simple to make. What an emotional bonus. Finally, […]

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Let’s share immigrant stories as #MoreThanALabel

September 30, 2015

I’m thrilled that America’s future social workers have asked me to join their campaign against immigrant discrimination. To stop the name-calling, abuse and violence, they are using a very 21st […]

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5 reasons why being in a Chinese family is murder & ways to break the cycle

August 1, 2015

Jennifer Pan’s parents pushed her to be the perfect daughter. But once she grew up, she hired hit men to kill them. Her story is about more than girl gone […]

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Chuang Yen Monastery — a giant Buddha in the Hudson Valley

May 6, 2015

With the older folks in my family dying off, I’m going to a lot of funerals. They’ve become affectionate occasions to catch up with relatives. The latest gathering surprised me […]

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My money story on NPR: Chinese family vs. personal happiness

March 15, 2015

As a huge fan of National Public Radio, I’m THRILLED to be featured on Marketplace. The NPR show, which is about personal finance and business, wanted to know how my immigrant […]

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