Okay. I just need to write this post and be done with it. You might remember that last September, I vowed to devote myself to — well, to me. I promised to do this for 12 months. Now it’s time to share what I learned from a year of celibacy. Oh, how I do NOT want to be blogging about …
Dads never really die
When I was 19, my 70-year-old dad passed on from this world. But since I believe that dads never really die, my relationship with him keeps growing. And we’re finally in a very good place. This is huge. After all, I spent decades wrapped in outrage, venting about the tyrant who scarred me forever. Now, I look at my faded …
The historic trauma of Asian American women is based on violence from Day 1
Did you know that a ban on Chinese immigrant women created America’s first immigration laws? Discovering this forgotten historical moment left me appalled by the suffering of the ancestors. They were singled out because they were poor, foreign and “exotic.” Learning these facts makes me more aware of the deep racism and sexism in our legal system. I’ve always felt that …
Taipei: Finding my cultural roots
With this post, I wrap up my epic, month-long Asian vacation. The final stop had a mission: finding my cultural roots in Taipei, Taiwan. I spent four fascinating days in the capitol city of this tiny island nation. Between the food, conversations and art, I went home feeling updated, with a more global sense of self. Taipei gave me another chance to …
Vote for Hillary & save America from cheating White boys
More than once, I’ve been involved with men who cheated on me. More than once, I stayed too long and loved too much. There’s a lot of women out there who can relate. We’re a huge voting block in the 2016 presidential election. Yet, where are the fancy experts analyzing our political clout? Then again, who would they interview, if …
How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story
Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did and said crazy things. Figuring out where she ends and I begin has become my life’s work. If she hadn’t left this world in 2010, she would’ve been celebrating her …