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What was? What’s new? What’s now?™

If life is a journey, then make sure it’s worth the trip! As a coach, I help you evaluate where you’re coming from (what was) & challenges you’re facing (what’s new). Once you see what you really have, you can get the life you really want (what’s now).

Even though I’m based in the New York City area, you can be anywhere. I coach online by videoconference or phone. It takes guts to reflect but the process usually brings surprising clarity, inspiration — and, relief. Read more about my coach approach here.

Little Betty in her cave

What my inner child wants: let me out!

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Eighteen months ago, I wrote a letter to my inner child. Come into my life more, I said. Well, she took up the invitation. Now, she wants to take over. She says it’s time to heal the early years and fully rebirth myself. <Gulp.> Anyways, here she is. See what what you think.     Hey Betty, Congrats on the life changes. …

Accepting my dad for who he is

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This year, I’m giving my dad a very special Father’s Day gift: unconditional love. So what if he’s been dead for 41 years. Remember, parents never really die. Besides, it’s never too late, right? My father crushed his family — Mom, my kid sister, me — with tough love. As a cranky Vietnamese-Chinese immigrant struggling with survival issues in America, …

Why Chinese American women gain weight

betty ming liu Food, Health 19 Comments

Ugh, I have to lose 16 pounds. Doctors’ orders. Otherwise, diabetes and achy knees will ruin my future. But here’s my other problem: Chinese American women gain weight for specific reasons. We have special issues in losing weight and eating healthy. According to recent studies, genes and culture create problems in very specific ways. The issues apply to both Chinese …

Who is first- and second-generation American?

Are you first- or second-generation American?

betty ming liu Relationships, Writing how-to's 46 Comments

I am SO ANNOYED. When will people get this straight??! If you’re an immigrant to this country, then you’re first generation. If your kids are born here, then they are second generation. So who are you — first- or second-generation? This is really important because of the hating on immigrants. Most people wrongly assume that the American-born child of immigrants …

5 reasons why being in a Chinese family is murder & ways to break the cycle

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Jennifer Pan’s parents pushed her to be the perfect daughter. But once she grew up, she hired hit men to kill them. Her story is about more than girl gone bad. Asian family values are detonating in the 21st century. And we must do something about it.  Jennifer’s story & our personal stories I found some research studies that might …

Chuang Yen Monastery — a giant Buddha in the Hudson Valley

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With the older folks in my family dying off, I’m going to a lot of funerals. They’ve become affectionate occasions to catch up with relatives. The latest gathering surprised me because I found diversity in the most unexpected location. When people from Chinatown and Queens choose cremation, their survivors make the 90-minute drive north to Chuang Yen Monastery in the town …