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What was? What’s new? What’s now?™

If life is a journey, then make sure it’s worth the trip! As a coach, I help you evaluate where you’re coming from (what was) & challenges you’re facing (what’s new). Once you see what you really have, you can get the life you really want (what’s now).

Even though I’m based in the New York City area, you can be anywhere. I coach online by videoconference or phone. It takes guts to reflect but the process usually brings surprising clarity, inspiration — and, relief. Read more about my coach approach here.

Forget Amy Chua. Bigger fish to stir-fry: 4 ways I’ve been conned by Confucius.

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 86 Comments

On Saturday, I blogged about “Parents like Amy Chua are the reason Asian Americans like me are in therapy.” Other bloggers had a lot to say about the topic too. Taken as a whole, the collective reaction was a chilling, community-wide scream over an issue so deep that it’s practically genetic. For me, the scope and depth of what’s being …

Parents like Amy Chua are the reason why Asian-Americans like me are in therapy

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 443 Comments

All day long, people have been telling me about an article headlined: “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.” And I’ve had enough! I’m posting my reaction so that I don’t have to keep talking about it. Getting to the point: the piece is crap. But its writer, Yale Law School Professor Amy Chua, is also a marketing genius. Let me explain…. …

Giant Westchester County paper shredder gives me fresh view on life & writing

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Today, my life is in shreds. Literally. And guess what — it feels great. Absolutely exhilarating, in fact. Here’s what happened…. I’m a resident of Westchester County, N.Y., which owns a giant paper shredding truck. All year long, the Mobile Shredder drives around, offering a secure way to recycle sensitive documents. At 10 a.m., that monster machine was parked in …

How to make a fast, easy, cheap orange cake recipe from “The Cake Mix Doctor”

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Even though I’m not into baking, I recently made the most sublime orange-flavored sheet cake. It took me just a few minutes and only a few dollars. And the secret ingredient in this rich, moist wonder? Miracle Whip salad dressing. Yeah, really. The cake was for a surprise 50th birthday luncheon. Sort of risky to try out this recipe — …