Why I’m not cranky this Thanksgiving

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Even though I can be grouchy around the holidays (’tis a hellish season to be single), you won’t hear any complaints from me right now. Instead, I am feeling reasonably sociable, for three reasons… ***First up, here is one of my favorite cartoons from The New Yorker. Last Thanksgiving, I posted this precious moment from the magazine on Facebook and …

Fear — and getting over it

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I just turned 55. And I am scared. The feeling reminds me of quarter-life angst except worse. After all, a half-life crisis involves twice as much emotional baggage. But thankfully, there’s also the potential for twice as much wisdom — which I discovered during a birthday morning visit with the shrink. My regular Monday session began with the same issues that …

Celebrate poetry! “Poem in Your Pocket Day”

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Today, I’m celebrating “Poem in Your Pocket Day.” I’ll bet you weren’t expecting that one from me, were you?  ;-) But I’m serious. All these years, I’ve been waiting to meet a really good man. And now that we’re together, I realize that my first therapist was right. When I was lonely wreck in the aftermath of my divorce, she kept …

Forget hotels. AirBnB.com offers an affordable stay in someone’s home

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I’m already fantasizing about those 2011 vacations! To preserve cash, I’ll be on AirBnB.com again. This travel listings website offers a terrific option to booking hotels. Folks use it to post the availability of their spare bedrooms, houses, lofts and apartments. The guests can be impressive; the Obamas just stayed at an AirBnB listing in Hawaii. But forget about our …

I am getting ahead by cutting costs

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Soooo, I’m about to walk into 2011 with nearly $9,000 less in annual expenses. And even though I’m happy about this development, it also makes me feel rather pathetic. Since when is $9k a big deal??! There was a time when saving or spending a few grand didn’t matter. But that was then. These days, cutting costs is the new …

5 ways that some married women can annoy a single, divorced woman like me

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I do a good job of celebrating the holidays because I want my daughter to have a happy childhood. In the process of keeping up the festivities for her sake, I’ve become less bah-humbug. And I’ll admit it, I  have even learned to have fun. Still, this time of year always makes me think of how hard it is to …