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What was? What’s new? What’s now?™

If life is a journey, then make sure it’s worth the trip! As a coach, I help you evaluate where you’re coming from (what was) & challenges you’re facing (what’s new). Once you see what you really have, you can get the life you really want (what’s now).

Even though I’m based in the New York City area, you can be anywhere. I coach online by videoconference or phone. It takes guts to reflect but the process usually brings surprising clarity, inspiration — and, relief. Read more about my coach approach here.

Turning 61 and feeling good about it

Turning 61 and feeling good about it

betty ming liu Relationships 14 Comments

From the time I was 25, birthdays made me gloomy. I always felt I didn’t accomplish enough. But here I am, turning 61 — and feeling good about my life. There’s more happiness and depth than I thought possible. So it’s time to let go of disempowering beliefs about aging. In reality, I’m grateful for wonderful health. I enjoy the …

The challenges of empty nesting & more

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 24 Comments

Here we go again. Another cycle of reinvention. All my loved ones have flown the nest. Boo-hoo. Poor me. Even though I learned to be alone after my 2001 divorce, this time it’s different. This time, I’m not bleeding emotional wounds from ripping apart a marriage. Instead, I’m facing typical first-world lifestyle transitions: The young adult daughter, living away from …

How I almost visited the White House & learned about aging gracefully

betty ming liu Inspiration 12 Comments

The Secret Service guy behind the glass window looked at my driver’s license, scanned his computer screen and shook his head. “You’re not on the list,” he said. What happened next made me feel like an idiot, a has-been, an old lady. But then, I pulled myself together. Along the way, I’ve learned a few things about aging gracefully — and maybe, dynamically. …

The night I met Prince, or, the coolest moment of my life

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration, Relationships 24 Comments

Dear Prince, I am writing my first-ever fan letter, to say “thank you.” Three decades ago, we met in a fleeting New York moment that gave me faith in my nerd self. With your death, I see the memory through fresh eyes. By staying fabulously purple your entire life, you’ve shown me that cool is possible at any age. The …