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What was? What’s new? What’s now?™

As a coach, I help you explore these three little questions. They get you to think big about your life. You’ll come up with unexpected answers, ideas and solutions. This is the power of your truth. 

Our coaching opens a safe, brave space for uncovering your hidden strength and options. We’ll re-visit your past (what was). And, discover surprises (what’s new). This creates change (what’s now). 

For more on my trademark coach approach, click here. Contact me. Find out what’s been stopping you, and, how to move ahead.

Parents like Amy Chua are the reason why Asian-Americans like me are in therapy

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 424 Comments

All day long, people have been telling me about an article headlined: “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.” And I’ve had enough! I’m posting my reaction so that I don’t have to keep talking about it. Getting to the point: the piece is crap. But its writer, Yale Law School Professor Amy Chua, is also a marketing genius. Let me explain…. …

5 ways that some married women can annoy a single, divorced woman like me

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 12 Comments

I do a good job of celebrating the holidays because I want my daughter to have a happy childhood. In the process of keeping up the festivities for her sake, I’ve become less bah-humbug. And I’ll admit it, I  have even learned to have fun. Still, this time of year always makes me think of how hard it is to …

Why I’m back in therapy

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration, Relationships 9 Comments

Sooooo, I’m back to seeing my shrink. That means I’m paying $175 for a weekly, 45-minute session. Ouch. Unfortunately, my health insurance doesn’t cover a penny of it. Fortunately, the therapy is worth every cent. Even after only three weeks, I’m already feeling much better. If you’ve never tried it, let me just say that getting shrunk can do wonders. It’s …

Holiday season & divorce: 10 survival skills

betty ming liu Inspiration 14 Comments

It’s been a rocky, post-divorce decade of searching for new holiday traditions. But this morning, I actually woke up feeling HAPPY about Thanksgiving. Is this really me???! Up until now, I’ve dreaded the seasonal festivities. After all, we’re entering The Worst Time of The Year for a Single Person. For me, this high-stress period officially runs from now until Feb. …

Blogs, Twitter & Facebook for folks over 50

betty ming liu Food, Inspiration, Writing how-to's 8 Comments

While I love having people over and feeding them, today was a first: my guests included a blogging couple. So we spent a good amount of time photographing the meal for our various blogs and chatting about Twitter. What made this even more remarkable for me was that everyone at the table was well over 50 years old! That makes …

How to have romance in your life when you’re not dating

betty ming liu Health, Inspiration, Relationships 22 Comments

It wasn’t so long ago that I was sitting on my therapist’s black leather couch, sobbing my eyes out. At the time, I was a few years into post-divorce dating and, then not dating. I was still alone — and scared of being alone. Not dating was especially depressing since, up until then, my shrink was always telling me, “I …