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What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

April 17, 2016

I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow […]

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A book that might save your life, or, Back Pain: Part II

April 10, 2016

For the past two months, I’ve been miserable. Severe coughs, headaches and back aches made me feel like a frail, old person. I was so scared. But then, a little paperback saved […]

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What is a microaggression?

March 19, 2016

Note: Updated Nov. 20, 2023 for improving clarity and cleaning up typos.  :) Kevin Nadal is a psychologist, comedian, activist and professor who has solid advice for dealing with life’s […]

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Dealing with the sudden, tragic death of friends

March 12, 2016

In the last two weeks, two friends died in separate, unrelated car accidents. Dealing with their deaths pushed me into a sad, heightened state of self-awareness. Missing them makes me […]

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36 questions to find love (even for singles)

February 14, 2016

I’m usually a grouch about V-Day because the commercialism gets on my nerves. But a kinder, gentler me found a free and lovely way to share a wonderful hug with […]

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Say these 4 things to change a relationship

February 6, 2016

For most of our lives, my younger sister and I had A Difficult Relationship. For this, we hold our parents responsible. They constantly compared us to each other, pushing us to […]

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How to double date on a mother-daughter vacation

January 24, 2016

Vacationing in Amsterdam transitioned my daughter and I to a grown-up relationship. For the first time ever, we traveled as two women with romantic partners in tow. Thankfully, we survived […]

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