Writing: Make your desk a sacred space

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Greetings from Michigan! I’ve been here for a week, helping my boyfriend relocate to a new job in Ann Arbor. Hey, did I just hear alarms go off in your head? Well, they’re clanging inside of my brain, too. The dreaded commuter romance is the last thing I ever wanted. But we hope to this change — especially with long-distance relationships becoming more …

Why the next 10 minutes might solve your problems

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Last semester, I surprised my creative writing class with a simple but profound assignment. Forget about the usual high standards for submissions. Whatever they wanted to do was fine with me. All they needed to do was write for 10 minutes a day. That was it. Their topics, punctuation and logical sequencing of ideas were irrelevant. In fact, if their …

The night I met Prince, or, the coolest moment of my life

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Dear Prince, I am writing my first-ever fan letter, to say “thank you.” Three decades ago, we met in a fleeting New York moment that gave me faith in my nerd self. With your death, I see the memory through fresh eyes. By staying fabulously purple your entire life, you’ve shown me that cool is possible at any age. The …

What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

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I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people …

A book that might save your life, or, Back Pain: Part II

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For the past two months, I’ve been miserable. Severe coughs, headaches and back aches made me feel like a frail, old person. I was so scared. But then, a little paperback saved my life with secrets to great health. Maybe this post can save you, too. My problems started with a simple, allergy-type cough. It built into a hacking cough that rattled …

What is a microaggression?

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Kevin Nadal is a psychologist, comedian, activist and professor who has solid advice for dealing with life’s daily insults. Take his insights and protect yourself. With help, we can feel safe, or at least create emotionally safer spaces.   As a versatile expert, Kevin gets people talking about this pervasive, subtle form of discrimination. The tiny jabs and assaults on …