I launched this blog in 2008. My mini-me.

Categories

Chinese translation of Black Lives Matter issues for Chinese moms & dads #BLM

October 1, 2016

Some of you might remember my blog post about Black Lives Matter. A lot of you shared this open letter pleading with Chinese American moms to stand with Black moms. […]

Read More

How to talk to your teen about her clothes & save your relationship

September 25, 2016

My friend emailed me, desperate. Her first-born child, 13, stormed off to school in short-shorts and a teeny tank top. This, after a huge mother-daughter fight over inappropriate clothes. My […]

Read More

How to choose a good shrink? Ask for help!

The smartest thing I’ve learned to do: Ask for help

September 4, 2016

My parents taught me to solve my own problems. Never go to outsiders for help. In breaking this childhood cycle of isolation, I’ve learned to reach out with wonderful results. […]

Read More

The challenges of empty nesting & more

August 21, 2016

Here we go again. Another cycle of reinvention. All my loved ones have flown the nest. Boo-hoo. Poor me. Even though I learned to be alone after my 2001 divorce, […]

Read More

How my dad’s forgiveness freed me from perfectionism

July 23, 2016

I used to to think that sex and finances were the toughest topics to write about. This post beats them both because I struggle so deeply with unresolved daddy-daughter issues. […]

Read More

How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story

July 16, 2016

Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did […]

Read More

Open letter to Chinese American moms #blacklivesmatter

July 10, 2016

If you’re reading this and you’re not Chinese, American or Mom, please stay — and welcome! You are essential to the conversation too. It’s just that I feel a need […]

Read More