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I launched this blog in 2008. My mini-me.
Chinese translation of Black Lives Matter issues for Chinese moms & dads #BLM
October 1, 2016
Some of you might remember my blog post about Black Lives Matter. A lot of you shared this open letter pleading with Chinese American moms to stand with Black moms. […]
How to talk to your teen about her clothes & save your relationship
September 25, 2016
My friend emailed me, desperate. Her first-born child, 13, stormed off to school in short-shorts and a teeny tank top. This, after a huge mother-daughter fight over inappropriate clothes. My […]
The smartest thing I’ve learned to do: Ask for help
September 4, 2016
My parents taught me to solve my own problems. Never go to outsiders for help. In breaking this childhood cycle of isolation, I’ve learned to reach out with wonderful results. […]
The challenges of empty nesting & more
August 21, 2016
Here we go again. Another cycle of reinvention. All my loved ones have flown the nest. Boo-hoo. Poor me. Even though I learned to be alone after my 2001 divorce, […]
How my dad’s forgiveness freed me from perfectionism
July 23, 2016
I used to to think that sex and finances were the toughest topics to write about. This post beats them both because I struggle so deeply with unresolved daddy-daughter issues. […]
How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story
July 16, 2016
Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did […]
Open letter to Chinese American moms #blacklivesmatter
July 10, 2016
If you’re reading this and you’re not Chinese, American or Mom, please stay — and welcome! You are essential to the conversation too. It’s just that I feel a need […]