How to overcome childhood traumas & troubles: new possibilities for a new year

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Happy Lunar New Year! Here’s an old photo from the holidays. I remember when Mom took it. We were in a Chinese restaurant. She kept telling me to smile but I refused. How could I, when the fabric of my China Doll was so uncomfortably scratchy? Besides, everyone was watching our little drama — and I just HATED being on …

Forget Amy Chua. Bigger fish to stir-fry: 4 ways I’ve been conned by Confucius.

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On Saturday, I blogged about “Parents like Amy Chua are the reason Asian Americans like me are in therapy.” Other bloggers had a lot to say about the topic too. Taken as a whole, the collective reaction was a chilling, community-wide scream over an issue so deep that it’s practically genetic. For me, the scope and depth of what’s being …

Parents like Amy Chua are the reason why Asian-Americans like me are in therapy

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All day long, people have been telling me about an article headlined: “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.” And I’ve had enough! I’m posting my reaction so that I don’t have to keep talking about it. Getting to the point: the piece is crap. But its writer, Yale Law School Professor Amy Chua, is also a marketing genius. Let me explain…. …

5 ways that some married women can annoy a single, divorced woman like me

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I do a good job of celebrating the holidays because I want my daughter to have a happy childhood. In the process of keeping up the festivities for her sake, I’ve become less bah-humbug. And I’ll admit it, I  have even learned to have fun. Still, this time of year always makes me think of how hard it is to …

Why I’m back in therapy

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Sooooo, I’m back to seeing my shrink. That means I’m paying $175 for a weekly, 45-minute session. Ouch. Unfortunately, my health insurance doesn’t cover a penny of it. Fortunately, the therapy is worth every cent. Even after only three weeks, I’m already feeling much better. If you’ve never tried it, let me just say that getting shrunk can do wonders. It’s …