September 7, 2011

Well, folks, a miracle has happened. Getting out there to date post-divorce has given me some dating skills. Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. Dating online is totally acceptable. Hey, it’s hard to meet people. These days, everyone’s searching online for romance — even my gorgeous young college students. Thank God for the Internet. There’s even a very active senior market now. has useful information about various options.

2. Acting like a know-it-all is highly unattractive. Have you ever noticed that insecure people tend to brag about their great credentials? It’s important to relax and just enjoy being in the company of someone potentially interesting.

3. You don’t get to choose what love looks like. I’ve learned a lot about being open-minded. The more I can accept myself and my body, the more I can embrace the idea of being with someone special.

4. Patience and tolerance are essential for relationship building.  I thought I knew how to do this because I was married for 18 years. But the world has changed. And there’s also much that I’ve forgotten. Dating has become a refresher course on relationships.

5. There MUST be chemistry; or else, forget about it. What does chemistry look like? It’s different with each person. At least, that’s what I’ve discovered. Also want to throw in my shrink’s advice. He says that a successful relationship also requires accepting that there are ways in which the other person will NEVER change. So this has to be part of the meet-and-greet chemistry too.

Hope these tips help….good luck!