Vote for Hillary & save America from cheating White boys

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More than once, I’ve been involved with men who cheated on me. More than once, I stayed too long and loved too much. There’s a lot of women out there who can relate. We’re a huge voting block in the 2016 presidential election. Yet, where are the fancy experts analyzing our political clout? Then again, who would they interview, if we’re hiding in shame, heartbreak and anger?

But we can come out of the shadows now and vote for the ultimate survivor, Hillary Clinton. On Tuesday, Nov. 8, we can reward her smarts and grit by making her the next president of the United States. As POTUS, she can turn us from a nation of women who love too much into women who lead — a pantsuit nation.

This is about more than backing the Democrats’ first female candidate. Hillary, a proven warrior, is supremely skilled in wrangling the cheating, powerful White men who dominate America’s government and economy.


How Hillary handles the cheaters 

We live in a country where a woman makes only 80 cents for every dollar earned by a man. While this is unacceptable for any woman, think of the exhausted working moms who today, are either the main or only breadwinners in 40% of all American households.

Women are also subject to man-made laws that control our bodies. Republican candidate Donald Trump approves of this situation. In fact, he says women should be punished for their abortions.

Donald, who only praises young, female fashion model-types as beautiful, offers us a frightening future. Remember what he said about the middle-aged People magazine reporter, after she wrote that he had sexually assaulted her years ago? His response was, “Look at her….I don’t think so.”

Then, there’s Hillary.

Every day, she puts on a fresh pantsuit to do battle with Donald. She is out there defending us against this world-class media manipulator who cheated who on his first wife and talks trash about women. By the way, a new story suggests that he cheated on his third and current wife, too. Even though we’ve never heard of Hillary cheating on anybody, Donald also views her as corrupt for staying married to Bill Clinton, who had an affair while he was president.

I marvel at Hillary’s ability to fight for her identity while she’s sandwiched between these two larger-than-life men. Bill and Donald are big, big personalities. I know, because I’ve interviewed them both back in the ’90s, when I was a New York Daily News columnist.

During a sit-down with our editorial board, Bill was funny, charming and laser sharp. As for Donald, who I talked to on his yacht, on the phone and in his office, he craved press coverage from Day 1. The spotlight is his addiction, his drug.

Hillary juggles these two guys and more. At FBI headquarters, they’re going after her again because of her closest aide, Huma Abedin. Before Huma who finally separated from sexaholic husband Anthony Weiner, she used his laptop to send her own work-related emails.

Then, FBI boss James Comey zeroed in on those emails in a new, last-minute pre-election investigation that just ended and came up with nothing. This makes Comey yet another kind of cheater, a powerful White man who would cheat Hillary and the nation out of a fair election. I’ll bet Comey would’ve treated her very differently if Hillary had been a M-A-N.

She suffers because she is a woman — even though, as President Obama has said, she’s more prepared than anyone to be our next POTUS. Unlike the flashing cheaters who surround her, our former U.S. Secretary of State (2009-2013) is more of a socially awkward nerd with a brain for policy issues. Plus, she’s been First Lady (1993-2001); she already has first-hand, insider knowledge of the White House.

Hillary Clinton is the only person on the planet with those kind of credentials.

Hillary’s critics: do they have a point?

Still, I understand the critics. When Hillary ran for the U.S. Senate in New York  (2001-2009), I voted for her with zero enthusiasm. Why did she stay married to Bill and do the Loyal Wife victim thing instead of beating him up in public? She seemed rather frosty, which bothered me too. Then again, very few of us feel like chatting when we’re recovering from a cheating relationship that’s ripping out our guts. Looking back, I think her struggle hit too close to home. She reminded me that love life sorrow can infect my entire life.

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot from my mistakes. Hillary has too. Even so, the media still describes Hillary, who I’ve never met, as “insular” and “lacking in transparency.” There’s people who still call her untrustworthy. Personally, I agree she’s not captivating like the cheaters around her. But what are her faults when Donald Trump keeps his tax returs a secret, says whatever pops into his head and relies on his children as his closest advisors?

Maybe it’s time to simply accept that hardworking Hillary offers us something other than the glam of a cheater’s charisma. She’s a stubborn student of life who sometimes chooses poorly. But she learns and keeps fighting. Her determination rescued her from being a victim. Her willingness to chase her political dream inspires me to deal with the biggest cheater in my life: me.

Why I embraced cheating

Deep inside where only I can see, I’ve struggled with feeling like a second-class citizen. My sense of unworthiness has been passed down for generations. My mother used to say that “having a man is a prestige.” She stayed married and supported us in her job as a chemist while my under-achieving dad cheated on her.

Her mother taught her that women are destined to suffer. In China, her mom — my grandma — was married to a man who had a mistress and a love-child. The wife, the mistress and their children all lived together under one roof. These mistresses, known as concubines, symbolized a man’s machismo and wealth.

Letting go of these destructive values took tons of work. Thankfully, I’ve been able to sort things out on my own, in my own time. My privacy has been a privilege, which makes me appreciate Hillary’s sacrifice all the more. As a public servant, she has no privacy. She lived out the aftermath of her husband’s affair in headlines. How many of us could do that?

Why I’m voting for Hillary

In this election, we go to the polls in a historic U.S. moment. We are the most diverse voting population ever, according to researchers.

  • Millennials, our kids born after 1980, are the country’s largest generation — with 43% of them non-White.
  • Speaking of race in America, Asia is the main source of new immigrants, are are largely people of color.
  • Meanwhile, our White population is at an all-time low of 65%, leading to the cry of the White man among Trump followers.

I am proud to be counted among these statistics as an Asian American, single working mom, from a Chinese immigrant family, with a multiracial Millennial daughter. I am also a woman who has learned to stop cheating on herself.

Now, I want Hillary to win so that she can take the nation to the next level. So for the first time in my life, I’ve volunteered to help a politician. That was me, talking to voters in Philadelphia, calling registered Florida Democrats, and writing a check to Hillary’s campaign. This is her shot to change the script for all of us.

The women who love too much can learn to love more wisely, more powerfully. Let’s give Hillary a chance to show us the way.

I hope you’ll share this post with anyone sitting on the fence about Hillary! And if you have thoughts about the elections, Hillary, relationships or anything, let’s chat below.  :)



Comments 6

  1. Cheering for you and Hillary!

    Trump made his billions by cheating working people and tax payers. It’s our duty to not let this con man take over America. Do not believe any of his empty campaign promises. The only thing Trump will do is to enrich his family and take vengeance against people who don’t worship him.

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  2. AMEN! I am hoping I wake up on NOV 9 with a female president and not a cheating, racist, misogynist, lying, monster who calls women fat who has 4 double chins….He focuses on what Hillary is wearing rather than policies he can neither comment on or state because he is too freakin’ stupid. I’m a Chinese American woman and I will be crying on NOV 9 if he is elected…..My mother is an immigrant from China and I haven’t spoken to her since he won the Republican nomination since she is voting for him…she is uneducated (didn’t finish high school) and likes how his wife looks. I’m not kidding, this is why she is voting for him. The only thing he is accomplishing even if he loses is to further his family brand. His daughter had the audacity to advertise on social media the brand of dress she was wearing for the Republican convention speech she gave and where one could purchase a dress like hers. This is the ultimate in conflict of interest. She doesn’t represent any women I know of….ANY. Hillary on the other hand, represents me and many other women I know. She is extremely intelligent, qualified, and will hopefully be the first female president. I’m 57 years old and would like to see this happen before I leave the planet. I do have female friends who are voting for the monster called Trump. They cannot explain why most often when I ask them to explain his policies…because he has none. He doesn’t even understand who are his allies in government…having broken policy with his running mate. The fact that he has engaged a communist president to campaign for him is close to treason…the guy is a NUT JOB.

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      Ginger, I also wonder what tomorrow will bring. And that’s so interesting about your mother. I honestly feel that the whole celebrity factor moves the needle towards Trump with more power than anyone expected. I guess I’ll be praying a lot over the next 36 hours. Thanks for sharing your experience!

  3. I can not join you as an admirer of the pant suit. When you compare women’s and men’s suits, we men come out way on top. Men’s suits are in general much better made and have way more pockets. The millennium will not have dawned until pocket equality is achieved!
    The first female candidate I was familiar with was great aunt Cornelia, who ran for mayor of the improbably named town of Ong’s Hat, NJ, in 1936. Cornelia owned the whole town and was one of two registered voters. The other was cousin Orwill. Orwill nominated his goat as the other candidate. It was a neck and neck race. In the end there was no winner because the goat ate the ballots. It ‘s a lesson for us; never let a goat into the polling place. In the present election let’s hope a nasty old goat does not win.
    Seriously – I think perhaps your headline is a bit hard on white boys. My father never cheated on my mother in 45 years of marriage. Neither of my grandfathers did either and I’ve never cheated on my husband. Neither Trump nor Bill Clinton are fair samples of the species.
    As for the Clinton episode, I don’t think it is anyone’s right to judge her decision to stand by him. In fact I’d say they both made a mistake in dealing with the matter in public. They both should have stonewalled and said such things are personal.
    Anyway, it is now 5:26 AM and the results are in from Dix’s Notch, NH. Hillary won, 4 to 2. Let’s hope that indicates a national trend.

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      Toby, as always you make astute points. But I am learning to love the pantsuit because of Hillary.

      My greater concern is the headline on this post. I truly hope I haven’t offended you. I thought long and hard about whether to go with what I used. I am only singling out the CHEATING White boys. Right now, they’re the face of power in government and business. And Hillary is out there battling with them every single day.

      Thank you for making time in your busy day to point out the need to be fair! May our combined energy help keep us on track for the rest of Nov. 8th. Peace and love to you as you head to the polls. :)

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