Baby Betty

Letter to my inner child

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Hello, Little Betty. We meet at last. Even though you’ve been with me forever, this is our first real conversation. Honestly, I had NO IDEA we could talk. I thought my survival depended on shutting you out. My denial kept you locked up and locked down. But now, I’m ready to bring you home. Your days of hiding are over, …

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My Michigan desk

Writing: Make your desk a sacred space

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Greetings from Michigan! I’ve been here for a week, helping my boyfriend relocate to a new job in Ann Arbor. Hey, did I just hear alarms go off in your head? Well, they’re clanging inside of my brain, too. The dreaded commuter romance is the last thing I ever wanted. But we hope to this change — especially with long-distance relationships becoming more …

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Why the next 10 minutes might solve your problems

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Last semester, I surprised my creative writing class with a simple but profound assignment. Forget about the usual high standards for submissions. No need to labor over their words. Instead, just write for 10 minutes a day. I didn’t care about their topics, punctuation or logical sequencing of ideas. In fact, I didn’t want to see their homework at all. But …

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The night I met Prince, or, the coolest moment of my life

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Dear Prince, I am writing my first-ever fan letter, to say “thank you.” Three decades ago, we met in a fleeting New York moment that gave me faith in my nerd self. With your death, I see the memory through fresh eyes. By staying fabulously purple your entire life, you’ve shown me that cool is possible at any age. The …

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Reflecting on fear, back pain, new projects & the healing power of poetry

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Ouch. Ouch. Easy, girl. Earlier this week, wrenching my back led to three, solid immobilized days in bed. Even though I’m up again, recovery is slow. The back is tender. So am I. Three painful, prone, motionless days took me to a deeper truth. I had to deal with not just physical crippling but an emotional one. Lately, I’ve been stressed about …

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36 questions to find love (even for singles)

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I’m usually a grouch about V-Day because the commercialism gets on my nerves. But a kinder, gentler me found a free and lovely way to share a wonderful hug with myself, my significant other and my students. The “36 Questions” are the answer. They come out of a research study on intimacy. The study poses 36 questions designed for couples …

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