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Inspiration for the week (or longer)

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This week, I rediscovered the pleasure in talking less and saying more. So instead of blathering on for hundreds of words, here are barely 300 words — plus a few photos that express  exactly how I feel right now. Of course, I still have lots to share. It’s just that I’m in a deliciously quiet mood, thanks to a solid …

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How my dad’s forgiveness freed me from perfectionism

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I used to to think that sex and finances were the toughest topics to write about. This post beats them both because I struggle so deeply with unresolved daddy-daughter issues. But I recently said something to my father that represents a complete shift in our relationship. My adult life might finally be in my own hands. First, full disclosure. Since …

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A book that might save your life, or, Back Pain: Part II

betty ming liu Health, Inspiration, Money, Relationships 12 Comments

For the past two months, I’ve been miserable. Severe coughs, headaches and back aches made me feel like a frail, old person. I was so scared. But then, a little paperback saved my life with secrets to great health. Maybe this post can save you, too. My problems started with a simple, allergy-type cough. It built into a hacking cough that rattled …

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Reflecting on fear, back pain, new projects & the healing power of poetry

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Ouch. Ouch. Easy, girl. Earlier this week, wrenching my back led to three, solid immobilized days in bed. Even though I’m up again, recovery is slow. The back is tender. So am I. Three painful, prone, motionless days took me to a deeper truth. I had to deal with not just physical crippling but an emotional one. Lately, I’ve been stressed about …

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36 questions to find love (even for singles)

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I’m usually a grouch about V-Day because the commercialism gets on my nerves. But a kinder, gentler me found a free and lovely way to share a wonderful hug with myself, my significant other and my students. The “36 Questions” are the answer. They come out of a research study on intimacy. The study poses 36 questions designed for couples …

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5 reasons why being in a Chinese family is murder & ways to break the cycle

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Jennifer Pan’s parents pushed her to be the perfect daughter. But once she grew up, she hired hit men to kill them. Her story is about more than girl gone bad. Asian family values are detonating in the 21st century. And we must do something about it.  Jennifer’s story & our personal stories I found some research studies that might …

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