healing words

Say these 4 things to change a relationship

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For most of our lives, my younger sister and I had A Difficult Relationship. For this, we hold our parents responsible. They constantly compared us to each other, pushing us to be twin success stories. When we were little, our mom even dressed us in identical outfits. We grew up feeling competitive and judgemental of each other. Then a year ago, …

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Amsterdam Feature

How to double date on a mother-daughter vacation

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Vacationing in Amsterdam transitioned my daughter and I to a grown-up relationship. For the first time ever, we traveled as two women with romantic partners in tow. Thankfully, we survived the emotional leap, and the awkwardness of our new reality. From changing diapers, I now had to treat my daughter as an adult, with an, um, private life. And, I …

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jennifer pan

5 reasons why being in a Chinese family is murder & ways to break the cycle

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Jennifer Pan’s parents pushed her to be the perfect daughter. But once she grew up, she hired hit men to kill them. Her story is about more than girl gone bad. Asian family values are detonating in the 21st century. And we must do something about it.  Jennifer’s story & our personal stories I found some research studies that might …

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Fight gun violence: Moms Demand Action march

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A new experience: For the first time ever, I carried a sign and participated in a march. It was liberating, necessary and — now that I know what marching feels like, it will certainly happen again. Why now? Guns. I’m heart-broken and furious about the killing going on in this country. Every day brings new headlines about the murder of …

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Starting a new year without my sweet, old cat

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I began the Year of the Sheep by making a painful decision about Lucky, our ancient cat. My first act of the new year was to put him to sleep. Dealing with death is considered a no-no during such an auspicious holiday. But Lucky was a black cat with great vibes, enough to overcome Chinese superstitions. Besides, I miss him. Talking …

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#Ferguson. Hear the black man’s cry. Our cry.

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If we’re going to talk about the national outrage called Ferguson, we must include certain key facts — information that isn’t getting enough play in the news media. The race-and-politics numbers are depressing Two-thirds of Ferguson’s residents are black. The mayor is white. Five out of six City Council members who run Ferguson are white. The city has 53 police …

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