Ask for help

The smartest thing I’ve learned to do: Ask for help

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My parents taught me to solve my own problems. Never go to outsiders for help. In breaking this childhood cycle of isolation, I’ve learned to reach out with wonderful results. But the struggle remains: I still find it hard to ask for help. In times of need both large and small, my reflex is to save face and shut people …

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Sixty is the new serenity

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I survived turning 60! And I’m here to report that tipping past the half-century decade offers new options for fabulousness. To enjoy it, I just need to get out of my own way and embrace (more) change. For instance, I’ve always been one of those people who also feared turning 20, 30, 40 and 50. I was afraid these milestones …

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Fighting for Hillary with Moms Demand Action

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The moms handed me a red T-shirt emblazoned with “Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America.” They also gave me a tote bag filled with campaign buttons, including my favorites: “Moms Demand Hillary” and “Buck the NRA.” From there, I hit the streets for an inspiring experience during the 2016 Democratic Convention in Philadelphia.¬†Between pestering strangers and canvassing with …

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How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story

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Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did and said crazy things. Figuring out where she ends and I begin has become my life’s work. If she hadn’t left this world in 2010, she would’ve been celebrating her …

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NEWS SHOT

Open letter to Chinese American moms #blacklivesmatter

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If you’re reading this and you’re not Chinese, American or Mom, please stay — and welcome! You are essential to the conversation too. It’s just that I feel a need to talk directly with a group that looks most like me, to reassure us that we are not alone. I have also added a Chinese translation of this blog post. …

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Happy Father's Day

Accepting my dad for who he is

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This year, I’m giving my dad a very special Father’s Day gift: unconditional love. So what if he’s been dead for 41 years. Remember, parents never really die. Besides, it’s never too late, right? My father crushed his family — Mom, my kid sister, me — with tough love. As a cranky Vietnamese-Chinese immigrant struggling with survival issues in America, …

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