teen girls

How to talk to your teen about her clothes & save your relationship

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My friend emailed me, desperate. Her first-born child, 13, stormed off to school in short-shorts and a teeny tank top. This, after a huge mother-daughter fight over inappropriate clothes. My friend wanted advice. I was stumped. But when I turned to Facebook friends for help, they responded with inspiring insights that I wish were available when my own daughter was …

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How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story

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Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did and said crazy things. Figuring out where she ends and I begin has become my life’s work. If she hadn’t left this world in 2010, she would’ve been celebrating her …

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Say these 4 things to change a relationship

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For most of our lives, my younger sister and I had A Difficult Relationship. For this, we hold our parents responsible. They constantly compared us to each other, pushing us to be twin success stories. When we were little, our mom even dressed us in identical outfits. We grew up feeling competitive and judgemental of each other. Then a year ago, …

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5 reasons why being in a Chinese family is murder & ways to break the cycle

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Jennifer Pan’s parents pushed her to be the perfect daughter. But once she grew up, she hired hit men to kill them. Her story is about more than girl gone bad. Asian family values are detonating in the 21st century. And we must do something about it.  Jennifer’s story & our personal stories I found some research studies that might …

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My money story on NPR: Chinese family vs. personal happiness

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As a huge fan of National Public Radio, I’m THRILLED to be featured on Marketplace. The NPR show, which is about personal finance and business, wanted to know how my immigrant parents impacted my money values. This is one of my favorite topics. How we handle our finances is so revealing! Follow the money trail and you can decode the story …

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Don’t be a perfectionist: 5 steps to recovery

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I just rewrote my book manuscript for the third time — and it was total agony. The final, two-day push was a marathon effort involving very little sleep, six slices of pizza and lots of cookies. Did I mention that my normal diet is dairy-, sugar- and gluten-free? Haha! The past week was super-stressful because I was delivering the draft …

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