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Post image for My money story on NPR: Chinese family vs. personal happiness

As a huge fan of National Public Radio, I’m THRILLED to be featured on Marketplace. The NPR show, which is about personal finance and business, wanted to know how my immigrant parents impacted my money values. This is one of my favorite topics. How we handle our finances is so revealing! Follow the money trail and […]

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Post image for Don’t be a perfectionist: 5 steps to recovery

I just rewrote my book manuscript for the third time — and it was total agony. The final, two-day push was a marathon effort involving very little sleep, six slices of pizza and lots of cookies. Did I mention that my normal diet is dairy-, sugar- and gluten-free? Haha! The past week was super-stressful because […]

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Post image for Who am I? Humor for self-awareness & identity issues

A good friend of mine says that reading my painful blog posts about childhood traumas and cultural issues is only bearable when I’m funny. Agreed! Humor goes a long way in sharing the truth effectively and then, growing from the experience. The tricky part here is that looking in the mirror can be tough. But […]

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Post image for I regret not going away for college

Even though my life has had its share of stumbles and bumbles, I have only one true regret: Why did I live at home during those all-important university years? The good news is that helping my daughter shop for a college this fall is giving me some vicarious thrills, insights, comfort — and fresh regrets. […]

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Post image for Things that belonged to my parents

Writing so much about my parents on this blog has led to a very nice surprise. While they annoyed terrorized me for so many of my younger years, I can now think of them with great fondess. Dare I say it? Yeah. I can: All is forgiven. Putting up posts about them has been healing […]

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Post image for My mother, myself

So today, I need you to help me write this blog post. I’ll do my part by supplying an iconic image from my childhood. One look and I’ll bet you’ll instantly understand a lot about my personal issues. My hope is that you can explain what happened to me. I can still remember the day […]

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