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The night I met Prince, or, the coolest moment of my life

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration, Relationships 19 Comments

Dear Prince, I am writing my first-ever fan letter, to say “thank you.” Three decades ago, we met in a fleeting New York moment that gave me faith in my nerd self. With your death, I see the memory through fresh eyes. By staying fabulously purple your entire life, you’ve shown me that cool is possible at any age. The …

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What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

betty ming liu Money, Relationships 8 Comments

I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people talk. …

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A book that might save your life, or, Back Pain: Part II

betty ming liu Health, Inspiration, Money, Relationships 12 Comments

For the past two months, I’ve been miserable. Severe coughs, headaches and back aches made me feel like a frail, old person. I was so scared. But then, a little paperback saved my life with secrets to great health. Maybe this post can save you, too. My problems started with a simple, allergy-type cough. It built into a hacking cough that rattled …

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Inspiration from Anne Lamott’s “Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life”

betty ming liu Health, Inspiration, Writing how-to's 16 Comments

Lately, life has been about Too Many Things To Do & Feel. But today brings calm. I’ve come full circle and back to a bit of inspiration that saves me. It’s a helpful gift that I’ve shared with many friends, students and readers. So here it is again, for you…. The passage comes from a classic memoir, the bestselling Anne Lamott’s …

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Reflecting on fear, back pain, new projects & the healing power of poetry

betty ming liu Health, Writing how-to's 12 Comments

Ouch. Ouch. Easy, girl. Earlier this week, wrenching my back led to three, solid immobilized days in bed. Even though I’m up again, recovery is slow. The back is tender. So am I. Three painful, prone, motionless days took me to a deeper truth. I had to deal with not just physical crippling but an emotional one. Lately, I’ve been stressed about …

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Dealing with the sudden, tragic death of friends

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In the last two weeks, two friends died in separate, unrelated car accidents. Dealing with their deaths pushed me into a sad, heightened state of self-awareness. Missing them makes me realize that all true friendships are precious. Sharing about them now is the only way to keep them close. They taught me stuff I didn’t know about love. Writing about …

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