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Get my gift for you: “3 mistakes that wrecked my life (and how you can avoid them)”

If you’re trying to figure out your life and relationships, my 9-page workbook can help. Writing about yourself in its pages will give you clarity on what you want and what you have. Writing works — even if you’re not a writer!

I paid dearly for the three most awful mistakes I ever made. Sharing what I’ve learned can get you started on a happier, more fulfilling path. Why wait? You’ve already got so much going for you. Now it’s about articulating what’s inside, on the page. We can start right now.

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Storytelling & microaggressions in #TrumpAmerica

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When I showed up for my Wednesday evening communications class, the mood was miserable. Donald Trump’s victory at the polls was just hours old. Everyone was angry and scared. Most of these students are people of color, with many from immigrant families. What kind of America is this, where it’s suddenly okay to be racist, sexist, anti-LGBTQ, anti-Muslim, anti-immigrant, anti-everything? …

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The smartest thing I’ve learned to do: Ask for help

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My parents taught me to solve my own problems. Never go to outsiders for help. In breaking this childhood cycle of isolation, I’ve learned to reach out with wonderful results. But the struggle remains: I still find it hard to ask for help. In times of need both large and small, my reflex is to save face and shut people …

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How my dad’s forgiveness freed me from perfectionism

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I used to to think that sex and finances were the toughest topics to write about. This post beats them both because I struggle so deeply with unresolved daddy-daughter issues. But I recently said something to my father that represents a complete shift in our relationship. My adult life might finally be in my own hands. First, full disclosure. Since …

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How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story

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Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did and said crazy things. Figuring out where she ends and I begin has become my life’s work. If she hadn’t left this world in 2010, she would’ve been celebrating her …

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NEWS SHOT

Open letter to Chinese American moms #blacklivesmatter

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If you’re reading this and you’re not Chinese, American or Mom, please stay — and welcome! You are essential to the conversation too. It’s just that I feel a need to talk directly with a group that looks most like me, to reassure us that we are not alone. I have also added a Chinese translation of this blog post. …

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How I almost visited the White House & learned about aging gracefully

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The Secret Service guy behind the glass window looked at my driver’s license, scanned his computer screen and shook his head. “You’re not on the list,” he said. What happened next made me feel like an idiot, a has-been, an old lady. But then, I pulled myself together. Along the way, I’ve learned a few things about aging gracefully — and maybe, dynamically. …

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