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How I almost visited the White House & learned about aging gracefully

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The Secret Service guy behind the glass window looked at my driver’s license, scanned his computer screen and shook his head. “You’re not on the list,” he said. What happened next made me feel like an idiot, a has-been, an old lady. But then, I pulled myself together. Along the way, I’ve learned a few things about aging gracefully — and maybe, dynamically. …

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The shocking history of Asian American women, &, owning my power today

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For much of my life, I struggled with being woman, Asian and American. Three pieces in a complex personal puzzle. Much of the time, I felt Not Good Enough. But recently, connecting with my female ancestors changed my outlook. They put up with such horrifying crap! Their story made me so mad that fury displaced fear to make me brave. Did you …

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What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

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I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people talk. …

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Reflecting on fear, back pain, new projects & the healing power of poetry

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Ouch. Ouch. Easy, girl. Earlier this week, wrenching my back led to three, solid immobilized days in bed. Even though I’m up again, recovery is slow. The back is tender. So am I. Three painful, prone, motionless days took me to a deeper truth. I had to deal with not just physical crippling but an emotional one. Lately, I’ve been stressed about …