Happy Father's Day

Accepting my dad for who he is

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This year, I’m giving my dad a very special Father’s Day gift: unconditional love. So what if he’s been dead for 41 years. Remember, parents never really die. Besides, it’s never too late, right? My father crushed his family — Mom, my kid sister, me — with tough love. As a cranky Vietnamese-Chinese immigrant struggling with survival issues in America, …

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Writing about dogs: RIP to the king of canines

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One glance at his Match.com photo and I knew. He was big and strong, with a magnificent head of hair. Roscoe also proved to be a total gentleman: attentive, kind and fun. Within weeks, he pretty much moved in with me as part of a package deal. It was love at first sight with Roscoe, a black-and-tan Belgian Shepherd — and, …

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What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

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I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people talk. …

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Dealing with the sudden, tragic death of friends

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In the last two weeks, two friends died in separate, unrelated car accidents. Dealing with their deaths pushed me into a sad, heightened state of self-awareness. Missing them makes me realize that all true friendships are precious. Sharing about them now is the only way to keep them close. They taught me stuff I didn’t know about love. Writing about …

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Say these 4 things to change a relationship

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For most of our lives, my younger sister and I had A Difficult Relationship. For this, we hold our parents responsible. They constantly compared us to each other, pushing us to be twin success stories. When we were little, our mom even dressed us in identical outfits. We grew up feeling competitive and judgemental of each other. Then a year ago, …

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Cooking with Kian: The only Chinese cookbook you’ll ever need

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Just in time for Feb. 8th’s Lunar New Year! A new Chinese cookbook has me serving up elegant dishes that are shockingly simple to make. What an emotional bonus. Finally, it’s possible to be authentically Chinese without torture. Never before have I paid so little for such high-quality therapy. My go-to resource is the recently-published “Phoenix Claws and Jade Trees: Essential …

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