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What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

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I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people talk. …

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Dealing with the sudden, tragic death of friends

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In the last two weeks, two friends died in separate, unrelated car accidents. Dealing with their deaths pushed me into a sad, heightened state of self-awareness. Missing them makes me realize that all true friendships are precious. Sharing about them now is the only way to keep them close. They taught me stuff I didn’t know about love. Writing about …

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Say these 4 things to change a relationship

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For most of our lives, my younger sister and I had A Difficult Relationship. For this, we hold our parents responsible. They constantly compared us to each other, pushing us to be twin success stories. When we were little, our mom even dressed us in identical outfits. We grew up feeling competitive and judgemental of each other. Then a year ago, …

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Cooking with Kian: The only Chinese cookbook you’ll ever need

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Just in time for Feb. 8th’s Lunar New Year! A new Chinese cookbook has me serving up elegant dishes that are shockingly simple to make. What an emotional bonus. Finally, it’s possible to be authentically Chinese without torture. Never before have I paid so little for such high-quality therapy. My go-to resource is the recently-published “Phoenix Claws and Jade Trees: Essential …

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Indian cooking spices up mother-daughter bonding

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When my daughter and I take cooking classes together, the power struggle and bickering stops. Our generational divide closes as we surrender to the instructor and the magic of food. Our latest love fest? Indian cuisine. The adventure also marked our first visit to the new digs for Institute of Culinary Education (ICE). This venerable cooking school trains professional chefs …

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How to vacation with a dog in Vermont

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Summer’s flying by! The headlines? Daughter home from college. Boyfriend moving in the last of his possessions. Blog under major renovation. Writing, gardening, cleaning, adjusting…and, vacationing. With a dog. The latest dog in my life is Roscoe, a mellow, old shepherd. He and the bf have been together for more than 14 years. They moved in as a package deal. …