free writing workbook
Free workbook: What’s your next step?

If you’ve got decisions to make, your own words might offer the best advice. Your words are a source of power, insight and confidence for your badass self. My free, nine-page writing workbook can help you see yourself in a fresh, creative light. Even reading through the pages might spark new ideas. For sure, you can avoid the mistakes that wrecked me — until writing saved my life. 


Handling the will & kids in a second marriage

betty ming liu Money, Relationships 12 Comments

A friend wants me to post her heartbreaking tale — in hopes that she can save others from the same fate. As she wept the other day, I listened with horrified fascination to a situation that never, ever crossed my mind before. Oh, the price of love… Once upon a time, there was a second wife. She came into the …

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Win-win is better than win-lose

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 21 Comments

Win-win — what’s that? My parents raised me to believe that the world is filled with winners and losers. By their standards, I was doing pretty good in my early  30s. After all, I had a great career as a newspaper columnist and a husband who was a catch. But something wasn’t right. During that time, I was restless and …

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How to be alone on Valentine’s Day

betty ming liu Relationships 14 Comments

For the first time in my life, I am quite happy about being single on Valentine’s Day. There’s no whining, no resentment. No sadness or fury either. I am actually seeing my solo state as a blessing, a privilege and…..a status symbol? Yeah. Singlehood, believe it or not, is becoming trendy.  That last notion comes courtesy of a new book, …

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Learning about relationships from the Year of the Dragon

betty ming liu Art, Relationships 25 Comments

I‘ve always viewed the dragon as one of the coolest symbols of Chinese culture. Then, I learned the unpleasant reality of his relationship to his mate, the glorious, wildly feathered phoenix. Of course, we have every reason to adore the dragon. As the first animal in the 12-creature Chinese zodiac, he represents the ideal time for new beginnings. But the …

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Dealing with change, letting go of the past

betty ming liu Travel 32 Comments

Last night, I couldn’t sleep. That’s pretty unusual because I love a good snooze. But with a ton of changes going on in my life, the brain was churning away and wouldn’t turn off.  My seismic shifting began last month. First, I ended a 14-month relationship. Now I’m wrapping up my teaching gigs and getting ready to take on a new …

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How to choose a good shrink

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 10 Comments

Today’s post is inspired by the single most frequent question that readers ask me: How does a person get started with therapy? How do I choose a good shrink? Up until now, I’ve been pretty clueless on what to answer. But I finally asked my own therapist for advice on the issue. The highlights from our chat are outlined below.  …

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