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Get my gift for you: “3 mistakes that wrecked my life (and how you can avoid them)”

If you’re trying to figure out your life and relationships, my 9-page workbook can help. Writing about yourself in its pages will give you clarity on what you want and what you have. Writing works — even if you’re not a writer!

I paid dearly for the three most awful mistakes I ever made. Sharing what I’ve learned can get you started on a happier, more fulfilling path. Why wait? You’ve already got so much going for you. Now it’s about articulating what’s inside, on the page. We can start right now.

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Vote for Hillary & save America from cheating White boys

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More than once, I’ve been involved with men who cheated on me. More than once, I stayed too long and loved too much. There’s a lot of women out there who can relate. We’re a huge voting block in the 2016 presidential election. Yet, where are the fancy experts analyzing our political clout? Then again, who would they interview, if …

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How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story

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Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did and said crazy things. Figuring out where she ends and I begin has become my life’s work. If she hadn’t left this world in 2010, she would’ve been celebrating her …

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Open letter to Chinese American moms #blacklivesmatter

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If you’re reading this and you’re not Chinese, American or Mom, please stay — and welcome! You are essential to the conversation too. It’s just that I feel a need to talk directly with a group that looks most like me, to reassure us that we are not alone. I have also added a Chinese translation of this blog post. …

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The shocking history of Asian American women, &, owning my power today

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For much of my life, I struggled with being woman, Asian and American. Three pieces in a complex personal puzzle. Much of the time, I felt Not Good Enough. But recently, connecting with my female ancestors changed my outlook. They put up with such horrifying crap! Their story made me so mad that fury displaced fear to make me brave. Did you …

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What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

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I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people talk. …

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Why Chinese American women gain weight

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In 2016, I must lose 16 pounds. Doctors’ orders. Otherwise, diabetes and achy knees will ruin my future. But here’s my other problem: Chinese American women face special issues in losing weight and eating healthy. According to recent studies, genes and culture create problems in very specific ways. The issues apply to both Chinese immigrant women and American-Born Chinese — …

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