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The shocking history of Asian American women, &, owning my power today

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For much of my life, I struggled with being woman, Asian and American. Three pieces in a complex personal puzzle. Much of the time, I felt Not Good Enough. But recently, connecting with my female ancestors changed my outlook. They put up with such horrifying crap! Their story made me so mad that fury displaced fear to make me brave. Did you …

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What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

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I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people talk. …

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Why Chinese American women gain weight

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In 2016, I must lose 16 pounds. Doctors’ orders. Otherwise, diabetes and achy knees will ruin my future. But here’s my other problem: Chinese American women face special issues in losing weight and eating healthy. According to recent studies, genes and culture create problems in very specific ways. The issues apply to both Chinese immigrant women and American-Born Chinese — …

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Cooking with Kian: The only Chinese cookbook you’ll ever need

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Just in time for Feb. 8th’s Lunar New Year! A new Chinese cookbook has me serving up elegant dishes that are shockingly simple to make. What an emotional bonus. Finally, it’s possible to be authentically Chinese without torture. Never before have I paid so little for such high-quality therapy. My go-to resource is the recently-published “Phoenix Claws and Jade Trees: Essential …

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Let’s share immigrant stories as #MoreThanALabel

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I’m thrilled that America’s future social workers have asked me to join their campaign against immigrant discrimination. To stop the name-calling, abuse and violence, they are using a very 21st century weapon: the hashtag. #MoreThanALabel is the brainchild of social work graduate students at Simmons College. They want us to attach #MoreThanALabel to anything we post on social media that refers …

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5 reasons why being in a Chinese family is murder & ways to break the cycle

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Jennifer Pan’s parents pushed her to be the perfect daughter. But once she grew up, she hired hit men to kill them. Her story is about more than girl gone bad. Asian family values are detonating in the 21st century. And we must do something about it.  Jennifer’s story & our personal stories I found some research studies that might …