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Free workbook: What’s your next step?

If you’ve got decisions to make, your own words might offer the best advice. Your words are a source of power, insight and confidence for your badass self. My free, nine-page writing workbook can help you see yourself in a fresh, creative light. Even reading through the pages might spark new ideas. For sure, you can avoid the mistakes that wrecked me — until writing saved my life. 

 

Should I look for love?

betty ming liu Relationships 31 Comments

I always love puttering around my cozy house in stormy weather. With today’s rain and thunder pounding outside, I was totally content to cook, vacuum and do laundry. But as I sit here now at a clean desk with my little dog at my feet while Barbra Streisand wails about love on the boom box, I’m feeling… Um, is it …

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How to choose a good shrink

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 10 Comments

Today’s post is inspired by the single most frequent question that readers ask me: How does a person get started with therapy? How do I choose a good shrink? Up until now, I’ve been pretty clueless on what to answer. But I finally asked my own therapist for advice on the issue. The highlights from our chat are outlined below.  …

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Why I’m not cranky this Thanksgiving

betty ming liu Food, Inspiration, Relationships 16 Comments

Even though I can be grouchy around the holidays (’tis a hellish season to be single), you won’t hear any complaints from me right now. Instead, I am feeling reasonably sociable, for three reasons… ***First up, here is one of my favorite cartoons from The New Yorker. Last Thanksgiving, I posted this precious moment from the magazine on Facebook and …

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Fear — and getting over it

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration, Writing how-to's 33 Comments

I just turned 55. And I am scared. The feeling reminds me of quarter-life angst except worse. After all, a half-life crisis involves twice as much emotional baggage. But thankfully, there’s also the potential for twice as much wisdom — which I discovered during a birthday morning visit with the shrink. My regular Monday session began with the same issues that …

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Celebrate poetry! “Poem in Your Pocket Day”

betty ming liu Inspiration 8 Comments

Today, I’m celebrating “Poem in Your Pocket Day.” I’ll bet you weren’t expecting that one from me, were you?  ;-) But I’m serious. All these years, I’ve been waiting to meet a really good man. And now that we’re together, I realize that my first therapist was right. When I was lonely wreck in the aftermath of my divorce, she kept …

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Forget hotels. AirBnB.com offers an affordable stay in someone’s home

betty ming liu Money, Travel 9 Comments

I’m already fantasizing about those 2011 vacations! To preserve cash, I’ll be on AirBnB.com again. This travel listings website offers a terrific option to booking hotels. Folks use it to post the availability of their spare bedrooms, houses, lofts and apartments. The guests can be impressive; the Obamas just stayed at an AirBnB listing in Hawaii. But forget about our …

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