free writing workbook
Free workbook: What’s your next step?

If you’ve got decisions to make, your own words might offer the best advice. Your words are a source of power, insight and confidence for your badass self. My free, nine-page writing workbook can help you see yourself in a fresh, creative light. Even reading through the pages might spark new ideas. For sure, you can avoid the mistakes that wrecked me — until writing saved my life. 

 

I’m on Match.com with the hot over-50 crowd, no joke

betty ming liu Art, Relationships 28 Comments

So, I met a guy…and now I’ve got your attention! Well, it’s actually true. Match.com, to my shock, has become quite the meeting place for 50- and 60-somethings. Could it be that older is the new younger? This is a super-dramatic improvement from July 2010, when 54-year-old me quit online dating in disgust. The whole process felt like such a …

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Can I be more than Mommy?

betty ming liu Food, Inspiration, Relationships 27 Comments

My baby girl just left for camp, which leaves me rattling around the house alone. Scary! Especially since this is my future. Next summer, my daughter graduates from high school and heads for college. And when that happens, can I stand being home alone? Can I create a new life that’s not centered on being Mommy? To calm myself the other …

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Should I look for love?

betty ming liu Relationships 31 Comments

I always love puttering around my cozy house in stormy weather. With today’s rain and thunder pounding outside, I was totally content to cook, vacuum and do laundry. But as I sit here now at a clean desk with my little dog at my feet while Barbra Streisand wails about love on the boom box, I’m feeling… Um, is it …

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How to choose a good shrink

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 10 Comments

Today’s post is inspired by the single most frequent question that readers ask me: How does a person get started with therapy? How do I choose a good shrink? Up until now, I’ve been pretty clueless on what to answer. But I finally asked my own therapist for advice on the issue. The highlights from our chat are outlined below.  …

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Why I’m not cranky this Thanksgiving

betty ming liu Food, Inspiration, Relationships 16 Comments

Even though I can be grouchy around the holidays (’tis a hellish season to be single), you won’t hear any complaints from me right now. Instead, I am feeling reasonably sociable, for three reasons… ***First up, here is one of my favorite cartoons from The New Yorker. Last Thanksgiving, I posted this precious moment from the magazine on Facebook and …

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Fear — and getting over it

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration, Writing how-to's 33 Comments

I just turned 55. And I am scared. The feeling reminds me of quarter-life angst except worse. After all, a half-life crisis involves twice as much emotional baggage. But thankfully, there’s also the potential for twice as much wisdom — which I discovered during a birthday morning visit with the shrink. My regular Monday session began with the same issues that …

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