For the first time in my life, I am quite happy about being single on Valentine’s Day. There’s no whining, no resentment. No sadness or fury either. I am actually seeing my solo state as a blessing, a privilege and…..a status symbol? Yeah. Singlehood, believe it or not, is becoming trendy. That last notion comes [...]
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T oday’s post is inspired by the single most frequent question that readers ask me: How does a person get started with therapy? Up until now, I’ve been pretty clueless on what to say about that. But I finally asked my own therapist for advice on the issue. The highlights from our chat are outlined [...]
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Well, folks, a miracle has happened. The boyfriend and I just made it to our first anniversary. We’ve learned a lot during the past year. Maybe reading about our fumbles and recoveries might help you — or someone you know. 1. There’s no shame in dating online. Hey, it’s hard to meet people. These days, everyone’s [...]
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I just turned 55. And I am scared. The feeling reminds me of quarter-life angst except worse. After all, a half-life crisis involves twice as much emotional baggage. But thankfully, there’s also the potential for twice as much wisdom — which I discovered during a birthday morning visit with the shrink. My regular Monday session [...]
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Today, I’m celebrating “Poem in Your Pocket Day.” I’ll bet you weren’t expecting that one from me, were you? ;-) But I’m serious. All these years, I’ve been waiting to meet a really good man. And now that we’re together, I realize that my first therapist was right. When I was lonely wreck in the aftermath [...]
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I’m already fantasizing about those 2011 vacations! To preserve cash, I’ll be on AirBnB.com again. This travel listings website offers a terrific option to booking hotels. Folks use it to post the availability of their spare bedrooms, houses, lofts and apartments. The guests can be impressive; the Obamas just stayed at an AirBnB listing in [...]
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Soooo, I’m about to walk into 2011 with nearly $9,000 less in annual expenses. And even though I’m happy about this development, it also makes me feel rather pathetic. Since when is $9k a big deal??! There was a time when saving or spending a few grand didn’t matter. But that was then. These days, [...]
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I do a good job of celebrating the holidays because I want my daughter to have a happy childhood. In the process of keeping up the festivities for her sake, I’ve become less bah-humbug. And I’ll admit it, I have even learned to have fun. Still, this time of year always makes me think of [...]
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Sooooo, I’m back to seeing my shrink. That means I’m paying $175 for a weekly, 45-minute session. Ouch. Unfortunately, my health insurance doesn’t cover a penny of it. Fortunately, the therapy is worth every cent. Even after only three weeks, I’m already feeling much better. If you’ve never tried it, let me just say that getting [...]
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Shoveling snow has always been an emotional challenge. It makes me feel pathetically single and man-less. But I’m growing up and learning to cope. Here are my how-to shoveling tips.
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