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The challenges of empty nesting & more

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 24 Comments

Here we go again. Another cycle of reinvention. All my loved ones have flown the nest. Boo-hoo. Poor me. Even though I learned to be alone after my 2001 divorce, this time it’s different. This time, I’m not bleeding emotional wounds from ripping apart a marriage. Instead, I’m facing typical first-world lifestyle transitions: The young adult daughter, living away from …

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Weight loss: How I’m transforming my fat head

betty ming liu Food, Health 4 Comments

After a first life filled with fun food, the stir-fried chickens have come home to roost. Getting older means my body burns calories at a much slower pace. Eating the way I used to also means weight gain and possibly worse. Over the past five months, my search for a better eating lifestyle led to losing 12 whole pounds. And then, …

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How I almost visited the White House & learned about aging gracefully

betty ming liu Inspiration 12 Comments

The Secret Service guy behind the glass window looked at my driver’s license, scanned his computer screen and shook his head. “You’re not on the list,” he said. What happened next made me feel like an idiot, a has-been, an old lady. But then, I pulled myself together. Along the way, I’ve learned a few things about aging gracefully — and maybe, dynamically. …

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The night I met Prince, or, the coolest moment of my life

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration, Relationships 19 Comments

Dear Prince, I am writing my first-ever fan letter, to say “thank you.” Three decades ago, we met in a fleeting New York moment that gave me faith in my nerd self. With your death, I see the memory through fresh eyes. By staying fabulously purple your entire life, you’ve shown me that cool is possible at any age. The …

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Reflecting on fear, back pain, new projects & the healing power of poetry

betty ming liu Health, Writing how-to's 12 Comments

Ouch. Ouch. Easy, girl. Earlier this week, wrenching my back led to three, solid immobilized days in bed. Even though I’m up again, recovery is slow. The back is tender. So am I. Three painful, prone, motionless days took me to a deeper truth. I had to deal with not just physical crippling but an emotional one. Lately, I’ve been stressed about …

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Starting a new year without my sweet, old cat

betty ming liu Relationships 25 Comments

I began the Year of the Sheep by making a painful decision about Lucky, our ancient cat. My first act of the new year was to put him to sleep. Dealing with death is considered a no-no during such an auspicious holiday. But Lucky was a black cat with great vibes, enough to overcome Chinese superstitions. Besides, I miss him. Talking …

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