Happy Father's Day

Accepting my dad for who he is

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This year, I’m giving my dad a very special Father’s Day gift: unconditional love. So what if he’s been dead for 41 years. Remember, parents never really die. Besides, it’s never too late, right? My father crushed his family — Mom, my kid sister, me — with tough love. As a cranky Vietnamese-Chinese immigrant struggling with survival issues in America, …

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My Michigan desk

Writing: Make your desk a sacred space

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Greetings from Michigan! I’ve been here for a week, helping my boyfriend relocate to a new job in Ann Arbor. Hey, did I just hear alarms go off in your head? Well, they’re clanging inside of my brain, too. The dreaded commuter romance is the last thing I ever wanted. But we hope to this change — especially with long-distance relationships becoming more …

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sit tall

Why the next 10 minutes might solve your problems

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Last semester, I surprised my creative writing class with a simple but profound assignment. Forget about the usual high standards for submissions. No need to labor over their words. Instead, just write for 10 minutes a day. I didn’t care about their topics, punctuation or logical sequencing of ideas. In fact, I didn’t want to see their homework at all. But …

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prince

The night I met Prince, or, the coolest moment of my life

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Dear Prince, I am writing my first-ever fan letter, to say “thank you.” Three decades ago, we met in a fleeting New York moment that gave me faith in my nerd self. With your death, I see the memory through fresh eyes. By staying fabulously purple your entire life, you’ve shown me that cool is possible at any age. The …

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signs

What it means to be girls of color: “Bright Futures 2016”

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I just healed by sharing personal heartbreak on race issues. The experience chiseled me out of my emotional armor, the fake-confidence that protected me from acting like a lonely, yellow outsider. Maybe I can finally chase away the sense of otherness for a healthier, more satisfying option: wholeness as an American woman of color. Miracles like this happen when people talk. …

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Minty back

A book that might save your life, or, Back Pain: Part II

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For the past two months, I’ve been miserable. Severe coughs, headaches and back aches made me feel like a frail, old person. I was so scared. But then, a little paperback saved my life with secrets to great health. Maybe this post can save you, too. My problems started with a simple, allergy-type cough. It built into a hacking cough that rattled …

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