healing words

Say these 4 things to change a relationship

betty ming liu Relationships 8 Comments

For most of our lives, my younger sister and I had A Difficult Relationship. For this, we hold our parents responsible. They constantly compared us to each other, pushing us to be twin success stories. When we were little, our mom even dressed us in identical outfits. We grew up feeling competitive and judgemental of each other. Then a year ago, …

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Amsterdam Feature

How to double date on a mother-daughter vacation

betty ming liu Relationships, Travel 6 Comments

Vacationing in Amsterdam transitioned my daughter and I to a grown-up relationship. For the first time ever, we traveled as two women with romantic partners in tow. Thankfully, we survived the emotional leap, and the awkwardness of our new reality. From changing diapers, I now had to treat my daughter as an adult, with an, um, private life. And, I …

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family

Let’s share immigrant stories as #MoreThanALabel

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 15 Comments

I’m thrilled that America’s future social workers have asked me to join their campaign against immigrant discrimination. To stop the name-calling, abuse and violence, they are using a very 21st century weapon: the hashtag. #MoreThanALabel is the brainchild of social work graduate students at Simmons College. They want us to attach #MoreThanALabel to anything we post on social media that refers …

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Featured 2nd gen 455

Pet peeve time: Are you first- or second-generation American?

betty ming liu Relationships, Writing how-to's 46 Comments

I am SO ANNOYED. When will people get this straight??! If you’re an immigrant to this country, then you’re first generation. If your kids are born here, then they are second generation. Many people assume that being the American-born child of immigrants makes that child the first-generation American. But if that was true, then the folks who come here from …

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jennifer pan

5 reasons why being in a Chinese family is murder & ways to break the cycle

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Jennifer Pan’s parents pushed her to be the perfect daughter. But once she grew up, she hired hit men to kill them. Her story is about more than girl gone bad. Asian family values are detonating in the 21st century. And we must do something about it.  Jennifer’s story & our personal stories I found some research studies that might …

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roscoe686

How to vacation with a dog in Vermont

betty ming liu Money, Relationships, Travel 12 Comments

Summer’s flying by! The headlines? Daughter home from college. Boyfriend moving in the last of his possessions. Blog under major renovation. Writing, gardening, cleaning, adjusting…and, vacationing. With a dog. The latest dog in my life is Roscoe, a mellow, old shepherd. He and the bf have been together for more than 14 years. They moved in as a package deal. …

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