free writing workbook
Free workbook: What’s your next step?

If you’ve got decisions to make, your own words might offer the best advice. Your words are a source of power, insight and confidence for your badass self. My free, nine-page writing workbook can help you see yourself in a fresh, creative light. Even reading through the pages might spark new ideas. For sure, you can avoid the mistakes that wrecked me — until writing saved my life. 

 

How to choose a good shrink

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 10 Comments

Today’s post is inspired by the single most frequent question that readers ask me: How does a person get started with therapy? How do I choose a good shrink? Up until now, I’ve been pretty clueless on what to answer. But I finally asked my own therapist for advice on the issue. The highlights from our chat are outlined below.  …

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Why I need my shrink right now

betty ming liu Relationships, Writing how-to's 21 Comments

Getting divorced in 2000 destroyed my life. When I walked out of my 18-year marriage and a beautifully furnished home, I was an unemployed stay-at-home mom who relocated to a strange town and moved into an empty house. Hey, that was the easy part. It’s taken me a solid decade to figure out a new routine, re-invent my career and …

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Finding sanity in the Year of the Rooster

Year of the Rooster: therapy talk for 2017

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 23 Comments

Year of the Rooster has me thinking about how happy I am to finally, truly appreciate my difficult parents. The two of them, plus my first shrink, now occupy the V.I.P seats in my head, reserved for my most precious ancestors. Yup, they’re both dead. A heart attack killed Dad when I was a teenager. Mom died seven years ago, …

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writing tips & storytelling

Sharing our stories changes our lives. The ability to talk comfortably about ourselves is such a precious and powerful communication tool. With storytelling, we can get the love, confidence and creativity that we need and want. This is my message as teacher and life coach. You can find me in college classrooms, workshops and one-on-one sessions. I’m also here for …

#LovetrumpsTrump

Love trumps Trump — if it’s true love

betty ming liu Inspiration, Relationships 8 Comments

All the news coming out of the White House makes me insane. But after much gloominess and overeating, my doubts are gone. I believe 1,000% in my mantra. Against the odds, I know that love trumps Trump. The only way to carry on is with love — true love. While feel-good emotions can be nice, I’m chasing something more practical …

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How writing saved my life: Part 3 (Independence)

betty ming liu Relationships, Writing how-to's 11 Comments

Note: This is Part 3 and the final installment in my series. Part 3, with three key words: writing-saved-life. During my 30s, I played the Asian babe. There was a hot journalism career and cool husband. We owned a Manhattan condo with marble bathrooms and a fireplace. By day, I ran around the city, writing about immigrants. At night, I …

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