Sixty is the new serenity

betty ming liu Health, Inspiration 14 Comments

I survived turning 60! And I’m here to report that tipping past the half-century decade offers new options for fabulousness. To enjoy it, I just need to get out of my own way and embrace (more) change.

For instance, I’ve always been one of those people who also feared turning 20, 30, 40 and 50. I was afraid these milestones would prove me a loser, a woman who hadn’t achieved enough, who had wasted her shot at becoming a sexy and successful goddess.

While sex, success and godliness are still important <smile>, how I define them keeps transforming as I outgrow my need to please and impress.

These days, I care less about appearances and more about how I feel mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s the inner Betty that counts. Letting go of angst, competitiveness and striving feels really good.

Birthday pix

Getting to this state of relief didn’t happy overnight. In spite of my terror of each passing decade, those milestone birthdays all brought reasons to celebrate, too.

For me, growing up means realizing those little steps that seemed like zeroes actually added up to a lot. I’m extraordinarily blessed and grateful to walk into my 60s with certain anxiety-inducing situations behind me:

  • No more ticking biological clock (more like a biological time bomb).
  • No more menopause issues either (my body belongs to me now).
  • No more mortgage (the house is mine, no one can kick me out).
  • My daughter’s about to finish college (bye-bye tuition bills).

What I care about now

Meanwhile, I remain surrounded by love and more opportunities to keep growing. Here’s a list of areas I’m focusing on, covered in earlier blog posts:

My priorities are like supportive pillars, keeping me quite calm and free.

sixty is the new serenity

But there’s also room in my life for more exploring. So, I’m wondering…

Hmm. What next.

Help me celebrate the 60s!

I would love your advice and observations. What are you seeing in your 60-ish moms, friends, relatives and significant others? How do they inspire you, or make you want to scream?

And if you’re past 60 or know others who are, any thoughts on getting to the 70s, 80s and beyond?

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  1. Oh to be 60 again! There are many advantages to the senior years, not least of which is half price tickets on NJ Transit! Then there is the excuse factor – complicated excuses for not doing something you don’t want to do become less necessary because you are now “old” if and when you chose to play that card and that’s a perfect excuse in itself for almost anything. Further, no one expects you to lift heavy things or be familiar with the latest tech or the currant array of pop stars and boy bands. Then there is dressing how you please. I like to wear a suit and tie and do so whenever I go to the city, conduct class, attend a performance, etc. Were I a young person that might often be seen as pretentious but I’m old and therefore expected to be somewhat eccentric. There are many more advantages. Enjoy them as you discover them.

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      Toby, great tips all around. I’m gonna work every angle that you mention. The other thing is, your line: “Oh to be XX again!” I felt that every time I passed a milestone birthday. Looking back, I was so young and didn’t realize it. Thanks again for the great advice. :)

  2. You are looking really good and much younger than 60! My advice is to just relax but keep up the fitness and a healthy diet. Of course, being in love always helps to keep the skin looking bright and healthy. I’m looking at 70 next year and I wish I had done this back when I was 60 because my health has begun to deteriorate and no one but myself is to blame. It’s hard to reverse anything once you are at the top and starting down the hill so while you are still climbing, be aware and always active! Keeping that smile on your face is a plus too! Happy Birthday!

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      Thanks, Sandy. I’m still struggling to knock off a few more pounds — doctor’s orders. The health thing is huge, almost like a full-time job. But I’m working it. And good luck to you too!

  3. Looking great Betty! Happy, happy birthday. I now you are in a better place than when you celebrated 40 — and I am too! All the best to you!

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  4. Dear Betty,

    Happy 60th birthday! You have no idea how timely and needed your story is for me! I turned 60 on August 1 and for months leading up to the BIG day I had so many conflicted feelings. I did not experience this with any previous milestone birthday – – not even turning 50! What is it about turning 60 that makes me fearful? Thanks so much for sharing your pearls of wisdom! I am on a cruise celebrating my birthday and my fabulous self! What a wonderful way to start the day by reading your post! I am lounging by the pool on this beautiful ship, which I have now been on for a week, sipping a tropical drink as I write this. Here’s to turning 60!

    Much love,

    Lenora Green

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      Lenora!! I would NEVER have guessed you were anywhere near 60! Happy birthday — you are looking good. And thanks for taking me on that cruise with you right now. Mmmm. I’m sitting here smiling. As for the fear, for me, it was the fear of loss. But as we’ve both discovered, life can be pretty terrific. I’m so happy for you!

  5. What a great post! I agree. I didn’t start being close to being comfortable in my own skin until after I turned 40. There is a confidence that comes with age and experience! Looking good girl! xox

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