teen girls

How to talk to your teen about her clothes & save your relationship

betty ming liu Relationships 6 Comments

My friend emailed me, desperate. Her first-born child, 13, stormed off to school in short-shorts and a teeny tank top. This, after a huge mother-daughter fight over inappropriate clothes. My friend wanted advice. I was stumped. But when I turned to Facebook friends for help, they responded with inspiring insights that I wish were available when my own daughter was …

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rethink-sugar

Cutting back on sugar is sexy

betty ming liu Food, Health 13 Comments

My struggle to live sugar-free made me a no-fun frump. At least, until recently.  I’m starting to see young and sexy millennials waking up to sugar danger. To quote them: Yassss! Imagine what could happen if America’s largest living generation truly reduces its sugar intake. Finally, our consumer culture might start eating, drinking and partying in healthier ways. At the moment, …

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Ask for help

The smartest thing I’ve learned to do: Ask for help

betty ming liu Relationships 11 Comments

My parents taught me to solve my own problems. Never go to outsiders for help. In breaking this childhood cycle of isolation, I’ve learned to reach out with wonderful results. But the struggle remains: I still find it hard to ask for help. In times of need both large and small, my reflex is to save face and shut people …

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afropunk beauties

Asian mom finds her lost tribe at Afropunk festival

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration 10 Comments

Getting beyond my comfort zone usually leads to great discoveries. Which is why I went to Brooklyn yesterday for a shot of edgy, stylish, Afro-centric inspiration. The 12th annual Afropunk music festival was such a unique, satifying experience! People showed up making the most wildly creative fashion statements. Food trucks and kiosks served deliciousness. Of course, there were terrific bands and …

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my drums

The challenges of empty nesting & more

betty ming liu Health, Relationships 26 Comments

Here we go again. Another cycle of reinvention. All my loved ones have flown the nest. Boo-hoo. Poor me. Even though I learned to be alone after my 2001 divorce, this time it’s different. This time, I’m not bleeding emotional wounds from ripping apart a marriage. Instead, I’m facing typical first-world lifestyle transitions: The young adult daughter, living away from …

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wallMEME486

Inspiration for the week (or longer)

betty ming liu Art, Inspiration 8 Comments

This week, I rediscovered the pleasure in talking less and saying more. So instead of blathering on for hundreds of words, here are barely 300 words — plus a few photos that express  exactly how I feel right now. Of course, I still have lots to share. It’s just that I’m in a deliciously quiet mood, thanks to a solid …

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