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How my dad’s forgiveness freed me from perfectionism

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I used to to think that sex and finances were the toughest topics to write about. This post beats them both because I struggle so deeply with unresolved daddy-daughter issues. But I recently said something to my father that represents a complete shift in our relationship. My adult life might finally be in my own hands. First, full disclosure. Since …

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How my Asian mom made me nuts: a love story

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Mothers get blamed for everything. So if you want to know why I turned out this way, just look at my mom. She was a diva in denial who did and said crazy things. Figuring out where she ends and I begin has become my life’s work. If she hadn’t left this world in 2010, she would’ve been celebrating her …

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NEWS SHOT

Open letter to Chinese American moms #blacklivesmatter

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If you’re reading this and you’re not Chinese, American or Mom, please stay — and welcome! You are essential to the conversation too. It’s just that I feel a need to talk directly with a group that looks most like me, to reassure us that we are not alone. Dear Chinese American Moms, I am reaching out to you because …

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Practicing the art of flying at LaGuardia Airport

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Hello from Ann Arbor, Michigan! I just arrived for a week in my new Midwestern home-away-from-home. The flight from New York was such a horror show that it got me reflecting on My Journey: What do 21st century travelers need to survive airplanes and life in general? I always find the patience to go on from a wise writer who …

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Publishing: Great advice & ideas from Asian American Writers Workshop

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Picture a century-old, Renaissance-revival style meeting hall in downtown Brooklyn, with stately Corinthian columns and vaulted, 40-foot ceilings. Fill it with a youngish, multiracial, multi-gendered crowd. They are novelists, poets and non-fiction writers, plus a sprinkling of editors. Imagine them getting raw and personal in sharing their publishing survival tips. Welcome to “PubCon 2016.” On June 25th, Asian American Writers Workshop (AAWW) hosted …

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Happy Father's Day

Accepting my dad for who he is

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This year, I’m giving my dad a very special Father’s Day gift: unconditional love. So what if he’s been dead for 41 years. Remember, parents never really die. Besides, it’s never too late, right? My father crushed his family — Mom, my kid sister, me — with tough love. As a cranky Vietnamese-Chinese immigrant struggling with survival issues in America, …

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